Giving a tip to Undertakers

longforgotten

Certainly would not give the undertaker a tip. They are onto a good earner, mega bucks.

You could give a tip to a member of their staff, like bearers or something, if you wanted to as they are paid little, but no way to the undertaker themselves.

Also they are many family funeral directors who are taken over, say by the Co-op, and then keep the say business name. You don't know its changed to the Co-op. Would you think of giving such a big business as them a tip ?

chirpy007

I had never heard of this until my dads funeral a couple of months ago. I have to say i did find it a bit unearving but i believe they were tippped.

Jockthearab

After my fathers funeral when the final bill came through, I went & paid it by cheque. The person went away to get me a receipt & when he returned with it he handed ME a £20 note as a "Thank You" for prompt payment!
I was quite touched by this & hadn't even considered tipping them to be honest, even though they had been extremely professional & sensitive through a very difficult time.

Tribulation

At my mothers funeral, everything went exactly as I had asked. The undertakers were very good, didn't want any money upfront etc,

As they dropped me off at the end of the funeral, I was more than happy to tip the guys that carried my mum, £75. I know I'd paid for a service, but I was so pleased at their effort, I think they deserved it. (there was no hint of them wanting any tip)

In the end it's everybody's individual choice.

DUKE

I've never heard of tipping undertakers I'd tell them that I'd leave them something in my will

Yogibear

I`d give them a tip alright,look both ways before you cross the road?!!

Katyag

Ive never had a hand in planning a funeral yet (thank goodness) but family ones ive been too the drivers of the family funeral cars have all been handed an envelope (usually by my dad, head of the family i guess) once they have taken us back to the place for the after funeral tea.

Usually my dad shakes their hands, says thank you very much and hands them the envelope discreetly. Knowing my family they wouldnt tip if they werent happy but im not a tipper generally (DH was horrified when he found out lol) so it wouldnt cross my mind, esp at a time like that.

Dustykitten

Thanks OP for this thread.

I've just arranged my Grandma's funeral and was shocked at how much things had gone up since I arranged my Father's 4 years ago.

Mum did tip at Dad's but then we had been collected from the house and they were lovely at all stages. This one we are meeting them there and no limo afterwards so I am imagining they will have gone before we come out of the service? It might seem odd if they are still there when we come out and I think I'd think they were waiting for a tip.

Errata

Are people who tip confident that the tips are fairly distributed amongst all the employees ? The employees accompanying the coffin are only the public face of the business. What about the rest of the staff whose work ensures a good send off but are never seen by the bereaved ?

dawn27

DUKE wrote: »

I've never heard of tipping undertakers I'd tell them that I'd leave them something in my will

ROFL:rotfl:

I only ever tip if the person has done an outstanding job or gone out of their way for me. Its your personal choice don't feel forced into anything