tax credits - getting married but not living together yet. what to tell hmrc

kelpie35

If it is only for 1 month can your OH not help you out financially?

Dogger69

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

I think she said its open plan and sofas to small. Missed the bit were he is saving due to more kids coming to live with you? How many will there be OP?

Mattress on the floor

Some families live like that long term, one month shouldn't cause too much hardship?

mummyroysof3

I would just queeze everyone best I could if it was me tbh but I guess it depends if moving with you will save money or not

MissMoneypenny

Put all the girls in one room and boys in another, even if you have to use the lounge. It's only going to be for a short while. Look on it as the start of your new adventure.

inneedofsomehelp

We will have (gulp) 5 living with us but his 2 are going to university near us so will only be with us at weekends.

He has said we can have every penny he has, but his children need to move (just finished college so no funds of their own)

My nursery fees are currently £250 PW but once we move this will go to almost nil as he will be changing his working pattern so he will take over some the childcare for me and I will be nearer family so I have family who will also help out

Its not possible for the eldest to have his younger siblings in his room (medical issues and size not just a grumpy teenager) My room is 10ft x 10 ft and my youngest is still in bed with me (shame I know) so at the moment I can squeeze in a double and a toddler bed. My oh also does a lot of work from home, so I would need to somehow look at squeezing a home office in the house too (currently lives 60 miles away so its not like he can nip back to his mums to do his job)

I'm sure we will sort SOMETHING out, change of subject but of late lots has gone wrong and now I feel that by doing the ;right thing' and getting married, building stable foundation for our family etc is turning into another chaotic mess for us.

The couple the house is being purchased from said initially we could rent the house we are buying from them until it completes but their solicitor (rightly so from their POV) said it was a bad idea.

If I throw a long sickie from work and withdrew the kids from nursery sooner than planned it would be plain sailing lol

MissMoneypenny

inneedofsomehelp wrote: »

Its not possible for the eldest to have his younger siblings in his room (medical issues and size not just a grumpy teenager) My room is 10ft x 10 ft .

MissMoneypenny wrote: »

Put all the girls in one room and boys in another, even if you have to use the lounge.

Then your teenager can have the boxroom. It's only going to be for a month.

inneedofsomehelp wrote: »

but his 2 are going to university near us so will only be with us at weekends.

(just finished college so no funds of their own)

Can his university age children, stay at your OHs parents' (their grandparents') for a month?

pmlindyloo

It sounds as if you haven't exchanged in the house yet (or am I wrong?) so it is possible that this could go on for a some time and(heaven forbid) fall through entirely.

To be honest, if it were me then, unless you have gone for a massive wedding and you would lose a lot of money, then I would be postponing it until you are all settled and in the new house.

As soon as you are all together in the new house then you can take time to settle, notify tax credits about your change of circumstances, and plan your marriage.

All seems a lot of hassle and stress at the wrong time.