Fiancee's Hen Party

poet123

Person_one wrote: »

Just don't do anything without talking to the sister!

Why would he need "permission" to send his fiancee Champagne and flowers?

tea_lover

It's not about permission, it's just good manners. The sister has arranged what to me sounds like a lovely time, but for some reason it could be viewed that it's not good enough (why?!) If the OP starts adding to the plan it could definitely come across wrong to the people who have probably spent a lot of time and effort planning things already.

poet123

tea_lover wrote: »

It's not about permission, it's just good manners. The sister has arranged what to me sounds like a lovely time, but for some reason it could be viewed that it's not good enough (why?!) If the OP starts adding to the plan it could definitely come across wrong to the people who have probably spent a lot of time and effort planning things already.

I would agree with you on adding extras in the form of a surprise person or varying the arrangements, but not simply to arrange for Champagne/Flowers for his fiancee.

ffc1989

I understand what you are saying - Don't worry if I go to organise something more than getting some flowers delivered I will make sure I will keep the sister informed.

Thank you again to everyone for suggestions - I think flowers are going to be the likely with a gift set thing of bubbly or something similar.

Deanied

Get a butler in the buff!!!

peachyprice

Deanied wrote: »

Get a butler in the buff!!!

I can think of nothing worse, who wants to see bare @rse cheeks and dangly bits when they're being served food and drinks. _pale_

Alpha58

I don't have any suggestions as I am but a man. However, to the OP, big "thumbs up" for being thoughtful!

Person_one

poet123 wrote: »

Why would he need "permission" to send his fiancee Champagne and flowers?

Because when other people have gone to time and expense to arrange something, its not really on to spring something unexpected on them.

A bottle of champagne or a bunch of flowers are probably not going to cause any problems (I'd still give them a heads up though, so they aren't caught off guard and left wondering what else you might have done that they don't know about!) but an extra activity or a stripper could really balls up their timing/plans as well as put noses out of joint. The OP really doesn't want to give the impression that he thinks their ideas aren't good enough, and the hen night is traditionally something that women do for each other without input from men, the groom stepping in needs to be handled very carefully if it must be done at all.

I'm not sure what the OP thinks is inadequate about what they've planned anyway, it sounds fine to me, hen and stag parties have got a bit silly and OTT over the last few years anyway.

Carl31

In all honesty OP, i think your fiancee should be grateful with any effort thats been made on her behalf

I think it says more about her if its 'not good enough', after all, what if no one bothered planning anything for her.

Personally i think theres too much hung up on stag/hen dos, its the company that counts

Stephb1986_2

I'm not bothering with a hen night for myself to be honest, I don't have any sisters and or best mates so I'm not bothering.

I think the mixologist, champagne and flowers are really good options.

I hope she has a lovely time

Steph xx