Noise Issue with Neighbours

Enterprise_1701C

Why don't you invite your neighbour round for a cuppa and, if it is quiet at the time, say how much you enjoy the peace and quiet around here. If it is noisy, if her OH is busy, mention that it doesn't really annoy you, but it does annoy your OH.

jamie11

It's really no business of their landlord to interfere in neighbour disputes, if the noise is that bad then your proper route is to talk to your council's noise abatement officer.

Ivana_Tinkle

jamie11 wrote: »

It's really no business of their landlord to interfere in neighbour disputes, if the noise is that bad then your proper route is to talk to your council's noise abatement officer.

... who will quite rightly do absolutely nothing about three children playing in their garden for an hour before tea!

(Not having a go at you at all Jamie as you're quite right!)

jackomdj

If the neighbour is doing some DIY when does your OH expect them to do it? (Assuming the person doing the DIY works too)

With the children, think the only thing to do is let them grow up, unfortunately no matter what you say, if you have a winger the parents can't force them to be different.

wannahouse

i think your OH is being intolerant quite frankly!
theres nothing that they are doing that is out of order, but it is annoying to you- because of your proximity!

i'm not criticising him for being intolerant of noise however, as that would be hypocritical of me!
i am totally intolerant of all the noise that goes on from neighbours in close quarters too...
i don't want to hear them partying, farting in the shower, argueing, shagging, kids screaming on the trampoline, grandad sawing...
IT ALL DRIVES ME BONKERS!!!! argghhhh!!!

so now i live on a 2 acre property in one of god's hidden places in the uk, and as i type, a giant moth constantly banging on the outside of the window trying to get in is totally irritating me!
so i understand him getting wound up....but he needs to realise that HE is the problem, not the neighbours..they are just doing what folks do in their own homes, and he is supersensitive, as some of us folks also are!

i think approaching the neighbours about their normal behaviour, serves no purpose..you have no right to ask them to cease doing normal stuff around their own home (and whining and screaming in the garden is unfortunately entirely normal and typical of kids) and al it is going to do is cause bad blood and makes life worse for everyone else....

i think your husband needs to find a way to redirect his stress...and focus on something else, as he is attaching bad feelings to every little bump he hears from over the hedge.

and he needs to plan how he is going to earn enough money to get away from all the noise, and buy a nice quiet house in the country...yes...until lambing season, when they move the sheep, and al the lambs and mothers constanty call trying to find each other day in and day out, until they are reunited, and the giant moths bash your windows trying to get in..and the birds mating on top of the chimney every morning causing a raucous...and the hum of the bloody bees that must have built a nest up in our guttering on the 3rd floor...
maybe losing some of our hearing as we get older is actually a good thing???

good luck with it all anyway..and on a final note, i am thinking the best thing you probably could do for all of you, is to go over and invite them over for a beer and a bbq and have a few laughs, as once you get to know people and have a good time with them, suddenly they seem so much less annoying! (at least that is what most of my friends told me, after they got to know me! )

grifferz

When we live in such close proximity to others we have to tolerate a certain level of noise disturbance, and to be honest what OP is describing, to me does not sound like behaviour that is particularly inconsiderate.

Where we live - a converted maisonette - our bedroom with cheap laminate floor is directly above our downstairs neighbours lounge and the (lack of) sound protection is so bad that you can hear their conversation even at normal volumes.

They work late and come home around midnight then put music straight on. This carries on until the early hours of the morning. They frequently have extremely loud parties that go on until 4am. We have been down and talked to them multiple times and at first that worked for a day or two before they would start again. Now they don't even answer the door, the music just goes quieter when we knock on their door.

All of this is against the terms of the head lease and most likely against their tenancy agreement also, but neither landlord or freeholder seem to be interested. We're having to keep a noise diary for the council but we are already in the process of moving away so it seems unlikely that they will stop before we are gone.

If I could exchange our position for yours, where you just have DIY and kids screaming up until 8pm, I would do so in an instant. It just doesn't sound that unreasonable compared to involuntarily being part of a house party at 2am Monday morning.

If you can have a friendly word asking when their DIY is likely to end or if they could stop it an hour or two early on week nights, you might get some progress. I would not say anything about the kids and I would not threaten to or try to take it further.

securityman

When does your oh do his DIY?
When are you going to have kids?

comeandgo

I actually think its your OH who has the problem and you could get much worse neighbours - there is absolutely nothing wrong in how your neighbours are living their lives. Can I suggest he pops on headphones if the noise is bothering him? You get really good noise cancelling ones for aircrafts, maybe they can noise cancel in the garden?

aileth

If he has the problem, tell him to stop being a manchild and go round himself.

I would gladly swap my dub-step loving, 3 a.m. getting in from town and sorting out their bowling ball collection neighbours for one who likes doing a bit of DIY in the garden!

outofmoney

We have 4 children and I am sure they make plenty of noise at times. On one side we have another family, whose children are older but we still get noise, just a different type. The other side is a couple, they love to have friends round and sit out in the garden smoking and drinking. Now that actually bothers us more than the family.

But we don't go round, because as I said, we also make our fair share of noise. If you live in a small close area, you can't help but hear your neighbours.

I would be quite put out if our neighbours came and told us to basically 'shut up'.