Need ideas for something appropriate? Reading for a wedding

olibrofiz · 17 May 2013 at 7:21PM

Must be really, really hard for you - maybe a poem would be nice? I just did a search and thought this one was lovely - I'd take out the bit I've underlined tho

'What Is Love' by Walter Rinder

Love is just not looking at each other and saying
"You're wonderful."
There are times when we are anything but wonderful.
Love is looking out in the same direction,
it is linking our strength to pull
a common load,
it is pushing together towards the far horizons,
hand in hand.
Love is knowing that when our strength falters,
we can borrow the strength of someone who cares.
Love is a strange awareness
that our sorrows will be shared
and made lighter by sharing;
that joys will be enriched and multiplied
by the joy of another.
Love is knowing someone else cares that we are not
alone in life.

LisaLou1982 · 17 May 2013 at 7:29PM

Thats beautiful Olibroiz - thank you
xxx

TeamLowe · 17 May 2013 at 7:33PM

We had...
Captain Corelli's Mandolin by Louis De Bernieres
Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Those that truly love, have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.

And to love is not to possess by James kavanagh
To love is not to possess,
To own or imprison,
Nor to lose one's self in another.
Love is to join and separate,
To walk alone and together,
To find a laughing freedom
That lonely isolation does not permit.
It is finally to be able
To be who we really are
No longer clinging in childish dependency
Nor docilely living separate lives in silence,
It is to be perfectly one's self
And perfectly joined in permanent commitment
To another–and to one's inner self.
Love only endures when it moves like waves,
Receding and returning gently or passionately,
Or moving lovingly like the tide
In the moon's own predictable harmony,
Because finally, despite a child's scars
Or an adult's deepest wounds,
They are openly free to be
Who they really are–and always secretly were,
In the very core of their being
Where true and lasting love can alone abide.

Counting_Pennies_2 · 17 May 2013 at 7:37PM

We had this at our wedding

1st Corinthians13:1-8, The Bible

I may be able to speak the languages of men and even of angels, but if I have no love, my speech is no more than a noisy gong or a clanging bell.

I may have the gift of inspired preaching; I may have all knowledge and understand all secrets; I may have all the faith needed to move mountains - but if I have no love, I am nothing.

I may give away everything I have and even give up my body to be burnt - but if I have no love, this does me no good.

Love is patient and kind;

love is not jealous or boastful;

it is not arrogant or rude.

Love does not insist on its own way;

it is not irritable or resentful;

it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right.

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends.

olibrofiz · 17 May 2013 at 7:42PM

LisaLou1982 wrote: »

Thats beautiful Olibroiz - thank you
xxx

It IS lovely isn't it. And as an afterthought, given the circumstances, the underlined bit wouldn't necessarily need to be taken out xxx

I think it was the saying that 'at times we are anything but wonderful', and 'when our strength falters we can borrow the strength of someone who cares' that bought a lump to my throat xx

fluffnutter · 17 May 2013 at 7:44PM

I was thinking about my wedding music the other day. I chose a couple of my favourite pieces - one for walking down the aisle and the other for when we signed the register.

Only later did I discover that the first is about death and the second about adultery :eek:

LisaLou1982 · 17 May 2013 at 8:08PM

fluffnutter wrote: »

I was thinking about my wedding music the other day. I chose a couple of my favourite pieces - one for walking down the aisle and the other for when we signed the register.

Only later did I discover that the first is about death and the second about adultery :eek:

What did you have?!

mumonashoestring · 17 May 2013 at 8:24PM

We had this, from Kathleen Raine's 'Marriage of Psyche'

" He has married me with a ring, a ring of bright water
Whose ripples travel from the heart of the sea,
He has married me with a ring of light, the glitter
Broadcast on the swift river.
He has married me with the sun's circle
Too dazzling to see, traced in summer sky.
He has crowned me with the wreath of white cloud
That gathers on the snowy summit of the mountain,
Ringed me round with the world-circling wind,
Bound me to the whirlwind's centre.
He has married me with the orbit of the moon
And with the boundless circle of stars,
With the orbits that measure years, months, days, and nights,
Set the tides flowing,
Command the winds to travel or be at rest."

If you want something a bit more offbeat, try http://offbeatbride.com/2011/06/silly-wedding-readings

fluffnutter · 17 May 2013 at 8:42PM

LisaLou1982 wrote: »

What did you have?!

Faure's Pavane which is about death (walking up the aisle) and Allegri's Miserere which is a sung version of Psalm 51 which is all about asking for forgiveness after adultery (signing the register).

They're both beautiful though.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jw8PurepHxk

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XND3XXqt76Y