Not inviting family members...

DubPrincess

Hello all,

If a member of your fianc!'s family made your life a living hell through behaving like a playground bully, dirty looks at family events, whispered conversations that are clearly about you, obviously making an effort to ignore you, would you consider not inviting them to the wedding? It's meant to be the one day where you feel truly amazing and no one should be able to spoil it and make you feel rubbish right? Imagine your fianc! fully supports this decision so that isn't an issue.


Just wanted some opinions.
Thanks everyone xx

LEJC

In not inviting this person will you be splitting the rest of the family?...

If its likely to cause more unrest or comments amongst the others then I would be tempted to invite them...in all honesty they are hardly likely to be rude whilst at the wedding,but it may be seen that you are adding fire to the flames by not inviting them.

Stephb1986_2

I wouldn't invite them if that's how you feel about them.

We're not inviting any of my mums family or my dads family, I'm inviting my step dads sister only one of them though the others aren't invited.

My fiance isn't inviting any of his dads family but having all of his mums family there. We'd rather have people we like than people we don't really like.

Steph x

aliasojo

Sod them, they wouldn't be getting an invite if it were me.

Why would you invite someone to spend the day with you, celebrate with you, eat with you, if they couldn't treat you respectfully at any other time?

Crystallady

aliasojo wrote: »

Sod them, they wouldn't be getting an invite if it were me.

Why would you invite someone to spend the day with you, celebrate with you, eat with you, if they couldn't treat you respectfully at any other time?

I couldn't agree more :T

lizziebabe

It's your special day. Invite whom you like, to enjoy your day. If this person asks why they are not invited, tell them the reason why. Just because these people are part of the family doesn't automatically mean you have to get on with them. They sound nasty.

As my wise Mum used to say 'You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family'.

Ben84

Either choice could end up frustrating for you, so your best option I feel is to simply choose the choice you feel most strongly right for you as it's the one you're willing to stand behind if it is difficult.

DubPrincess

Thank you all for taking the time to reply!
Unfortunately, because of the kind of person they are, I am certain my wedding day will be the perfect opportunity to make me feel as awful as possible!
There will be issues amongst the rest if the family if this person isn't invited but I think that they are all too into the idea of a wedding to pull any "I'm not coming" rubbish.

Thanks again xx

lettice

If you think it would cause trouble not to invite this person, could you send them a token invite to the evening do and blame it on tight numbers if anyone dares query it? Hopefully they just won't turn up though if they are as odious as you suggest!

74jax

If you don't want someone there and your other half doesn't I can't think of a reason why you would invite them......

Its your day, if its an issue for anyone else then they don't have to attend either. They're invited as a guest, its not compulsary. If they have issues they have the choice to stay away.

I'm very harsh though and am doing what I want. We are paying for our wedding, so inviting who we want.

Afitos

We didn't invite any family to our Wedding for various reasons.

I didn't want my DH's Step mum there as she always has to have her way and acts like a spoilt child if she doesn't get it, including making a fuss of DH and ignoring me .

My Brother had 2yr old twins and I didn't want to be responsible for them around a swimming pool which I knew I would be !

My sister has never got any money and wouldn't of been able to afford it (we got married in Florida)

We decided that we wanted our wedding our way and it was lovely, the friends that came all mucked in and helped and made me feel like I was the centre of attention.

Our families weren't happy when they found out, but they seem to of got over it now and it has never been mentioned since.

We did worry about the consequences but I am so glad we didn't spend thousands of pounds to have our wedding ruined or taken over by other people , who incidentally had the exact wedding they wanted !

Good Luck with what ever you choose