seperated with one child~~

smileyrach_2

He is paying most of the bills aswell so i think he is being fair in that way just wish i didnt have to sell the house really and start all over again but as hes already moved on i have no choice i suppose

Kayalana99

Well...if you *could* afford the mortage payments with your benifits and careers allowance he can't force you to sell the house till your son is 18.

But if you want to do it that way be prepared for a battle & you'd better sort your finaces out soon as he won't be paying the mortage/bills if you go down that road.

Blackpool_Saver

You hold all the cards, stay in the house and claim what you are entitled to. As a carer you will get Income support, and will get mortgage help. He cannot force you to sell the house and you will be able to afford to stay in it. Get professional advice.

smileyrach_2

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

You hold all the cards, stay in the house and claim what you are entitled to. As a carer you will get Income support, and will get mortgage help. He cannot force you to sell the house and you will be able to afford to stay in it. Get professional advice.

where is the best place to go for free advice blackpool saver??citizens advice ? x

Kayalana99

Most solictors offer a free half hour might be good for you x

MrsAnnie

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

You hold all the cards, stay in the house and claim what you are entitled to. As a carer you will get Income support, and will get mortgage help. He cannot force you to sell the house and you will be able to afford to stay in it. Get professional advice.

Agree with this. Don't make any hasty decision at the moment. Get advice from CAB, and the benefits sites like turntous. Research all what you are entitled to before even contemplating selling the house etc. As already said - you may be surprised at what you are entitled to.

So sorry to hear you are going through this. It is a tough time for the best of people. Take care of yourself and accept any offers of support from family and friends.

A x

MrsAnnie

smileyrach wrote: »

where is the best place to go for free advice blackpool saver??citizens advice ? x

Yes, they also have a list of solicitors which they can put you in touch with for free/low fee legal advice.

RAS

Please start by making all the applications now for benefits. That way you do not get in a mess if he suddenly stops paying everything tomorrow.

MrsAnnie

For tax credits you will need to end your joint claim (if you have one) and reapply as a single claimant.

Just be aware that you monies maybe/will be stopped until the transition is completed. But you will get the reward backdate. I think I had to wait two or three weeks for my payments to be paid again.

Blackpool_Saver

agree with all the above, use a card until they get backdated. Don't give up your home, remain firm but friendly with you ex to foster his connection with the child, but do not waiver from your position, and get to a position where income form benefits or work is yours and not being given by him, because he could stop unless you do as he says and sell.