Every Little Inspirational Thought Evokes (Savings)

FloFlo

silvercar wrote: »

Because he shouldn't have to "appease those that objected". This is squills hour of need and the thread should have supported him in the manner he uses to deal with the issues he faces. Whereas it seems that he can only have support if he asks for sympathy in the way that others have done.

Have a read of this, which explains what I'm trying to say better than I can.

http://touch.latimes.com/#section/-1/article/p2p-75241622/

This is squills time, anyone further away from squills' MIL than squills has to allow squills to express his worry/ frustration/ anxiety in the way that he chooses. Only those nearer to the centre eg Squills' DW can object to what squills is saying.

I like that theory, very interesting.

3Dogs

fairclaire wrote: »

thanks Ellie, Im getting on alot better lately after accepting that the 'old him' isn't ever coming back. Hes still in there but for a long time I expected him to get 'better' and get back to normal. I know now that what he's been through means he might get better, but he'll never be the same as he was before. I struggled with that for a while


WOOPS that was deep.....feel free to ignore and move on folks :rotfl:

Could never ignore that FC. I think you have accepted that your OH has changed but it doesn't have to be for the worse, it can be for the better. He will be 'different' but will still be the guy you love, we can all see that. Remember, no-one stays the same, we change throughout our lifetimes anyway, it is just that this change has been forced on him, and you. It seems that you will always have to be the 'strong' one in the partnership, but I think that has always been the case, one way or another. He is very lucky to have you, and you are very lucky to still have him after all you have both been through. Make the most of what you have and be happy, you deserve it, both of you :beer:

lookinforabargain

fairclaire wrote: »

OMG you have to!!! find the cash...that would be great!

I know, I know!
I so want to go, but it's £40.70 a ticket :eek:

If I wasn't getting work done on the car next week I would have been able to as well. Bloomin' typical :mad:

3Dogs

Night Night guys, an early night for me as I didn't get to bed at all last night

fairclaire

silvercar wrote: »

Because he shouldn't have to "appease those that objected". This is squills hour of need and the thread should have supported him in the manner he uses to deal with the issues he faces. Whereas it seems that he can only have support if he asks for sympathy in the way that others have done.

Have a read of this, which explains what I'm trying to say better than I can.

http://touch.latimes.com/#section/-1/article/p2p-75241622/

I applaud you silvercar and totally agree with you. Although it may be unpopular. I have explained to a close friend tonight why I was upset at Squillion's treatment. My child is a mini squillion. Sees death, illness etc in a very rational way. You are born, you live, you might get Ill, you die. He is completely unable to associate emotions to those things......I very much suspect squillion has this exact problem, for the very same reasons my son does. And in total fairness to squills, he has admitted that he might be on the autistic spectrum somewhere. Very sad

elliemoo

Goodnight 3dogs, hope you get some rest tonight.

lookinforabargain

Good night 3Dogs, sleep well.

I'm yawning my head off here, so I should probably contemplate heading to bed to count some sheep!

elliemoo

fairclaire wrote: »

I applaud you silvercar and totally agree with you. Although it may be unpopular. I have explained to a close friend tonight why I was upset at Squillion's treatment. My child is a mini squillion. Sees death, illness etc in a very rational way. You are born, you live, you might get Ill, you die. He is completely unable to associate emotions to those things......I very much suspect squillion has this exact problem, for the very same reasons my son does. And in total fairness to squills, he has admitted that he might be on the autistic spectrum somewhere. Very sad

Hopefully he will just catch his breath and come back soon, nobody should feel they can't post. It is like someone posted earlier we really don't walk in someone else's shoes so perhaps we shouldn't judge so harshly.

For some, forums like ours can be lifelines, and we just don't know how much squills needed this forum as an outlet for things that can't be said out loud in real life.

Naebbirac

Queenriderbrekke wrote: »

Careful with the bikini as somebody on the freebies bzzagent thread says that it made her bleed and obviously read the instruction i.e not to near the genital area:)

It must be post watershed there cos it's just gone 7pm here, so I thought you could have a laugh at this. I first saw it ages ago, and seeing the comments about the hair removal product thought that the night crew would appreciate the humour.
DO NOT CLICK ON LINK/ READ IF YOU ARE EASILY OFFENDED


http://www.amazon.co.uk/product-reviews/B000KKNQBK

fairclaire

elliemoo wrote: »

Hopefully he will just catch his breath and come back soon, nobody should feel they can't post. It is like someone posted earlier we really don't walk in someone else's shoes so perhaps we shouldn't judge so harshly.

For some, forums like ours can be lifelines, and we just don't know how much squills needed this forum as an outlet for things that can't be said out loud in real life.

well said Ellie. I hope squills comes back too