Toddlers

JemmaM91

Makes me feel loads better! Especially as OH has now gone to work and DS is now back to being a devil.

I would try using more discipline but I'm not sure he understands yet. He can't yet talk other than saying 'huh' which means hello, and 'whats that' and 'whos there' both mean pretty much anything as he says them all the time without meaning.

The fact I know he behaves now might be an excuse to leave him with OH whilst I do my weekly shopping in peace from now on

Molly41

And it is still the same now mine are grown up....or nearly...

I go away for respite for my husband. Kids behave impeccably and the minute I return I get the strops and whining. I actually talked to my counsellor about it and she suggested the very same thing - they feel safe in your unconditional love. Not that their dad does not love them but it is a novelty to have Dad look after them - just like it is for your son - it will soon wear off!

mrcow

Mine was the opposite.

Absolute angel for me (generally!) but used to run circles round his Dad who had no clue on how to get him to do what he wanted him to.

All my three are still like it to some degree.

Kids aren't stupid. Even at 15 months. They know who's calling the shots.

Counting_Pennies_2

fluffnutter wrote: »

You think that 15 month olds need the 'discipline ramping up'? That you need to 'incentivise' their good behaviour? They're just babies!

I don't like badly behaved children as much as the next person, but even so...

Yes I do.

I have very well behaved children who know right from wrong. But they can also be absolute monsters from time to time, and it is necessary to let them know that some behaviour is not acceptable.

Biting is totally unacceptable and should be stopped immediately with very strong discipline. The same should apply to walking holding hands.

These are very basic rules that every child should learn to live by and discipline should be ramped up if they have demonstrated it is possible to behave this way for others, and play their mother for a fool.

My son was repeatedly bitten by a child at a play group and everyone agreed this mother should get the discipline sorted. These are basic social skills the child needs to learn.

The very fact the child has demonstrated he can behave differently for others is proof this child has more than a baby brain!

marisco_2

I think it is most likely that your toddler was just having a good day. Who could not be happy out and about in all this glorious sunshine. Your hubby was lucky to enjoy a relaxed and happy time with him.

I am sure you are a great mum and handle things brilliantly with your little one day in and day out. The behaviours you mention are not unusual for a child of your sons age. It says alot about how safe and secure he feels with you, that he feels able to push every button and boundary known to man. That is a stage all little ones go through.

It is also very clear to me how dilligent you are, in instilling in your son how you expect him to behave. He managed to do that today with his dad. That is a really good sign, he is learning from your great examples and it is going in.

I love toddlers and really miss mine being that age. They are so full of life, into everything and so busy trying to explore and make sense of the world around them. It is no wonder they wear themselves out and forget to behave well at times.

valk_scot

JemmaM91 wrote: »

Makes me feel loads better! Especially as OH has now gone to work and DS is now back to being a devil.

I would try using more discipline but I'm not sure he understands yet. He can't yet talk other than saying 'huh' which means hello, and 'whats that' and 'whos there' both mean pretty much anything as he says them all the time without meaning.

The fact I know he behaves now might be an excuse to leave him with OH whilst I do my weekly shopping in peace from now on

i'm not keen on the idea of "discipline" but you can always gently nudge things along. I think toddlers and puppies have a lot in common when it comes to this...you can say "Good Boy!" a lot when he does something good, with lots of cuddles and praise. And when he does something less good you can do the stern face and the firm "No, bad!" bit. Toddlers aren't daft, they may carry on doing whatever it is without dropping a beat but they know what you just meant. And then you pick them up or take whatever it is away and they bite you, but they still know what you meant, lol. And you can say "No" again...and one day, four or five years hence, they'll get the hang of it.

My kids were all devils at the toddler stage, full of energy and determination and inquisitivenes. They're still like that come to think of it, but at least they've stopped chewing the cat and emptying out pots from cupboards. Actually, scratch that last, DS was making pasta yesterday and you should have seen the mess. I told him to clear it up or I wouldn't take him walkies...err, drive him to rugby.

mcja

I don't always remember this but its a backhanded compliment when your kids are little monkeys for you. They feel comfortable with you and can be themselves!

balletshoes

JemmaM91 wrote: »

Makes me feel loads better! Especially as OH has now gone to work and DS is now back to being a devil.

I would try using more discipline but I'm not sure he understands yet. He can't yet talk other than saying 'huh' which means hello, and 'whats that' and 'whos there' both mean pretty much anything as he says them all the time without meaning.

The fact I know he behaves now might be an excuse to leave him with OH whilst I do my weekly shopping in peace from now on

there you go - brilliant idea .

sassyblue

fluffnutter wrote: »

Don't feel down, lovey. This is normal and how it should be. What it shows is that you're bringing up a sweet-natured, well-behaved child who feels so confident in your love for him that he's able to push the boundaries - a normal and healthy part of growing up.

I love that. I'm going to try and remember that when my 6yo is driving me to distraction again. Truly, he must be sooooo confident in my love for him sometimes.

I always said you judge your child's behaviour on how they behave with others, not you!

JemmaM91

valk_scot wrote: »

i'm not keen on the idea of "discipline" but you can always gently nudge things along. I think toddlers and puppies have a lot in common when it comes to this...you can say "Good Boy!" a lot when he does something good, with lots of cuddles and praise. And when he does something less good you can do the stern face and the firm "No, bad!" bit. Toddlers aren't daft, they may carry on doing whatever it is without dropping a beat but they know what you just meant. And then you pick them up or take whatever it is away and they bite you, but they still know what you meant, lol. And you can say "No" again...and one day, four or five years hence, they'll get the hang of it.

My kids were all devils at the toddler stage, full of energy and determination and inquisitivenes. They're still like that come to think of it, but at least they've stopped chewing the cat and emptying out pots from cupboards. Actually, scratch that last, DS was making pasta yesterday and you should have seen the mess. I told him to clear it up or I wouldn't take him walkies...err, drive him to rugby.

Thank you! I do try saying no when he's naughty but he just flashes his cheeky smile and I struggle to stay mad at him lol.
I do think he knows when hes about to do something naughty though as he giggles whilst doing so.

Thanks everyone for letting me know I not alone