What should i do?

benedictadams

Getting narked off with a person in my life

I live on my own with very few friends

Certain person is one of the only people i would consider to be a friend

But i think that i am being taken advantage of

A large amount of the time its all about how bad his life is (although I'm not sure how much is actually true because he has lied to me so many times eg having a hospital appointment when he was out cheating on me)

but when i am going through bad-times the conversation always gets steered to end up how bad his life he is

When i ask if we can spend time together,i get told that he already has plans (and when I ask a couple of weeks ahead i get told he doesn't make plans)

But he'll think nothing about every couple of weeks asking me to phone in sick so we can go out

He has basically admitted that if it was the other way round he would have walked away months before

If i kick him to the curb then i'll feel guilty

If i don't then he'll keep taking advantage

shellsuit

How can you feel guilty of kicking him to the kerb when you know if you stay with him he will keep taking advantage?

He's even admitted if you did the same to him, he wouldn't want to know, so why let him call all the shots?

Don't feel guilty, do what is right for you and whatever will make you happy

poe.tuesday

Think about it, you know the answers, it's the step to get rid of him from your life is the hard thing,
you are being treated like dirt and you are the one in contol of that, not him,

you are the only one in control of your life,
you are the one letting him treat you like this,
you are the only one who can stop him

as for you feeling guilty for cutting him to the curb - you seem to care more about him than you do yourself - you can not love anyone until you love yourself - look after yousrelf and do what is best for you as no-one else will

it's all about self worth - take control of your life

ailuro2

If you can't truly love yourself then how can you let someone else truly love you?

Get rid of that excess weight that's hanging around you ,asking you to phone in sick and risking your health by cheating on you.

Then get out and get yourself a wider social circle. Go to aerobics classes, quiz nights, wherever the same group of people gather on a regular basis and you will find some friends that won't take you for granted.

Like L'Oreal, it's because YOU are worth it.Bin him.

jessc_2001

Try this for a bit of inspiration.

Hope it helps!

vik6525

I dumped a friend off not that long ago cause of issues like this.. I got sick of being treated like a door mat by this person, and never getting anything in return. Its never easy parting ways with anyone, but sometimes, for the sake of your own mental health, you have to do it...

Errata

People only wipe their feet on doormats. Why not ask yourself what the purpose of the friendship is? What' does he get out of it? Or you?