First WFI Appointment. Problems Attending.

Dogger69

Dovah_diva wrote: »

Maybe so, but it does appear that she has very selective agoraphobia! All three places visited can be very crowded and busy. Unusual choices for a person who is agoraphobic.

Anyway, these meetings are important and I am sure that as attendance is dependant on benefit money being paid, either her daughter, partner or brother can find the time to accompany her,

You seem to think you know a great deal about the OP's family commitments, and indeed her health?

FBaby

Only what she has posted recently in other threads. I did find the statement 'My brother is the only one that I have to help me, as I live miles away from family and friends' a bit odd when she clearly refers to her partner in recent threads.

Dogger69

FBaby wrote: »

Only what she has posted recently in other threads. I did find the statement 'My brother is the only one that I have to help me, as I live miles away from family and friends' a bit odd when she clearly refers to her partner in recent threads.

Possible we have different understanding of the word partner? I've been with the same "partner" for years, he's happy to be here for the good times and to get his end away, but he would run a mile at anything official.

(And yes, I know I should get rid! )

FBaby

Yes indeed, I do think you should.... a partner who can't be bothered to support with insuring you get some income coming so you can feel and house yourself doesn't earn the title of partner in anyone's book!

Dovah_diva

Dogger69 wrote: »

I've been with the same "partner" for years, he's happy to be here for the good times and to get his end away, but he would run a mile at anything official.

(And yes, I know I should get rid! )

Oh that is sad. Have you no self esteem?

Dogger69

FBaby wrote: »

Yes indeed, I do think you should.... a partner who can't be bothered to support with insuring you get some income coming so you can feel and house yourself doesn't earn the title of partner in anyone's book!

Completely agree, and in real life I don't refer to him as my partner - but on t'interweb it is easier than explaining the bigger picture. I guess their are degrees of partnership?

Dovah_diva wrote: »

Oh that is sad. Have you no self esteem?

No self esteem issues here, and it's not sad at all - two adults that know where they stand with each other is fine by me.

xsunnysuex

For anyone interested. My partner lives even further away than my family. I mostly only see him at weekends. And my daughter is currently in Australia.
Due to some really nasty things that happened in my past, I am stuck living here on my own. Every one of my family live quite a way from me.
Due to my depression I know no one here.
Nobody here knows my story. Or what I've had to deal with.
So please don't judge me.

HB58

Would your GP provide a letter outlining your difficulties? It is possible to have these WFIs carried out over the phone but it is entirely at the discretion of the advisor.

tommix

Unfortunately Sunnysue, when it comes to benefits people are quick to judge..Particularly on this forum. Probably got something to do with the Tories and all the anti-Benefit propaganda flying about. If you say it often enough and loud enough etc..etc.

pmlindyloo

Would you be able to attend if you had someone with you even if she/he was not a friend?

I am thinking of the Red Cross.

I know it will depend on which area you are in and you may have to make a donation but contact them and see if their volunteer service would help.

http://www.redcross.org.uk/

Another possible lifeline might be your local church. The vicar/minister might know of someone who would help you out by going with you.

Both worth a try.