Wife making herself sick?

sulkisu

LudaMusser wrote: »

Thank you for all of the replies,

As I thought, making yourself sick can be very harmful to your body. One reply mentioned that if you make yourself sick after five minutes it's means the body won't be able to get vitamins through the food. My wife fainted once and that was put down to this reason, I believe a lack of Iron specifically

I'm going to look at the links and I think the weight watchers online might be a good idea, she could eat healthily and not put on weight and at the same time not have to make herself sick

I've got a feeling she may deny she has a problem but I hope she'll come round eventually

Thanks

I have hi-lighted this part because this is what I meant in my previous post about 'being careful how you approach this with her as you can make things worse'. I understand your logic in suggesting this but Weightwatchers is a weightloss programme. The moment you suggest it, you will reinforce everything that she already appears to believe - i.e. that she is fat and needs to lose weight.

marisco_2

OP your wife appears to have a very unhealthy relationship toward food and her diet in general. Added onto this that she is being sick so fast after consuming food and on a very regular basis, this is very worrying. My gut instinct response to what you disclose about your wife, is that she may be suffering from bulimia nervosa or anorexia. If this is the case then she will be in a vicious and damaging cycle and it will effect her health detrimentally.

She needs to want to help herself first and foremost and to seek medical assistance in getting this issue addressed as soon as possible. All you can do is support her as much as you can and try to encourage her to talk openly and honestly with you about what is going on. I hope she will recognise that she needs support and guidance in order to overcome this condition.

I am sorry to hear of your worries and hope your wife will want to help herself.

mrcow

You can make yourself sick without putting your fingers down your throat.

I was bullimic for years and made myself sick by just contracting my stomach. If someone had said I was making myself sick, I too would have denied it as I wasn't putting my fingers down my throat.

It was only years later that I finally admitted that I was bullimic. The best place for you to start is with her and your GP.

WantToBeSE

Hi Luda.

by the sounds of it, your wife either has Bulimia or Purging type Anorexia.
Eating disorders are NOT diets, they are mental health issues.
Encouraging her to look at Weight Watchers is NOT a good idea, as that is based on weight loss.
She needs to see a GP and a psychotherapist, but MOST of all, she needs support, not judgement from you.

http://www.b-eat.co.uk/

Person_one

I've deleted my replies on this thread, because I think this is actually in the realm of medical advice.

I think you need to ring BEAT and talk to somebody who knows what they're on about.

http://www.b-eat.co.uk/get-help/get-support/helpline/

DUTR

WantToBeSE wrote: »

Hi Luda.

by the sounds of it, your wife either has Bulimia or Purging type Anorexia.
Eating disorders are NOT diets, they are mental health issues.
Encouraging her to look at Weight Watchers is NOT a good idea, as that is based on weight loss.
She needs to see a GP and a psychotherapist, but MOST of all, she needs support, not judgement from you.

http://www.b-eat.co.uk/

The guy asked a question about his wife, if he didn't care or was offering what he deemed as support then he wouldn't have created the post, he is not judging her , dieting is not just about weight loss, whilst some people comfort eat, there are a number of people who starve themselves. And some are 'good' at hiding it too, went out with a girl just before xmas, when we were out she asked for some servettes, after I had scoffed my meal I noticed she hadn't really touched hers, but looked as if she was eating, only weeks later I realised she was putting it in her mouth and thn into the serviette. She basically lives on calgon or whatever it's called.
But anyways your repsonse to the OP reads almost as if you are blaming him for the shortcomings of his wife.

WantToBeSE

DUTR wrote: »

The guy asked a question about his wife, if he didn't care or was offering what he deemed as support then he wouldn't have created the post, he is not judging her , dieting is not just about weight loss, whilst some people comfort eat, there are a number of people who starve themselves. And some are 'good' at hiding it too, went out with a girl just before xmas, when we were out she asked for some servettes, after I had scoffed my meal I noticed she hadn't really touched hers, but looked as if she was eating, only weeks later I realised she was putting it in her mouth and thn into the serviette. She basically lives on calgon or whatever it's called.
But anyways your repsonse to the OP reads almost as if you are blaming him for the shortcomings of his wife.

I wasn't for a moment suggesting that he wasn't offering his support.

DUTR

WantToBeSE wrote: »

I wasn't for a moment suggesting that he wasn't offering his support.

It was the latter lines of your post, "she needs support, not judgement from you"
I know responses need not be wrapped in cotton wool, but from my seat it did look like he was being semi chastised

themull1

You get to the toilet first after your meal, lock yourself in and see what she does.....

quinechinoise

LudaMusser wrote: »

All constructive input appreciated, I'm just concerned about her health. She's 5ft tall and roughly 8 st, she think's she's fat and overweight but she's tiny. I can't convince her and have been with her for five years

You can chat to your GP about your concerns. They will not be able to diagnose and/or medicate your wife by proxy... but your GP may be able to alleviate your concerns or confirm that she needs to book an appointment herself.

As for her weight, your wife's BMI is actually 21.9 - firmly in the healthy range. I am both taller and lighter than your wife, and I definitely haven't keeled over yet! My BMI is 18.2... but that's because I have 2 kids, live on junk food, coffee and nerves and haven't slept properly since the first child was born.

To put an entirely different spin on things... if your wife is telling the truth (that she isn't deliberately making herself sick) and you've only noticed the regular throwing up within the last month... have you considered it might be morning sickness?

I mean, is she really lacking calorie intake if she's maintaining an 8 stone weight and a healthy BMI? She's not the only person in the world to adhere to a "French breakfast". Some parts of the picture seem to be missing. However, you do have my sympathies for your concern - it shows how much you care. x