Write a will today- trustworthy? Is the advice they've told my partner true?.

Ivy89

I'm currently living at home and my partner in his own house, but hope to move in with him at some point next year. We arent married. As I am eight months pregnant he has decided to write a will and went with writeawilltoday.co.uk. Apparantly the person came to the house ,answered his questions and drafted up the will. One of the questions that were discussed is what would happen to the baby should I die ,morbid I know but it has worried both of us. According to the will person our baby will be taken away from my family or his own for a few months whilst social services check backgrounds and decide who should have custody. That is unless i make a will myself stating my wishes. My own parents worked as foster careers for years with social services and for what I know of social services from their experiences they really don't work like that, and something doesn't sound right with the will writer?. Is it just me or do you think he sounds dodgy and is just trying to get more money?. To me the t &c on the website doesn't sound fabulous but I've never written a will as I have no property or cash, so I don't know how to tell whether they are trustworthy. According to them they are a member of the board for will people(can't think of the name sorry) yet when I followed the link and checked the members list there is no one under that name.

Mojisola

Ivy89 wrote: »

One of the questions that were discussed is what would happen to the baby should I die ,morbid I know but it has worried both of us.

According to the will person our baby will be taken away from my family or his own for a few months whilst social services check backgrounds and decide who should have custody. That is unless i make a will myself stating my wishes.

If one parent dies, the child will stay with the other parent.

Make sure the father is named on the birth certificate so that he has parental responsibility - https://www.gov.uk/parental-rights-responsibilities/what-is-parental-responsibility

Ivy89

He will be named on the certificate , it's just the will person said regardless of that he still will go into care that's why I found it odd.

dzug1

I don't think he would get more money just for adding that clause to the will anyway. It is something to think about.

If you are the sort of family that has caused social services concern anyway I suppose they might grab the child, but not normally I would have thought. Maybe this particular will writer has experienced it and over generalised.

Ivy89

My partner has done it as a single will not joint, and this will guy says in order to stop our child having social involved then I would need to write up a will myself - couldn't he get money that way?. I can see if we were that type of family but like I said my parents fostered for ten years, and my partner's parents were never involved with social services. The only thing that lets me and my partner down is that Atm we aren't living together or married. We've never been involved in social services and my partners 27 and I am 23 so it's not like we are young parents or anything .

Mojisola

Ivy89 wrote: »

He will be named on the certificate , it's just the will person said regardless of that he still will go into care that's why I found it odd.

He's either mistaken or trying to frighten you into making a will with him.

RAS

So you has got one mug to pay his fees and now he is using the bloke he persuaded to recruit a second mug??

Do not be a mug; if OH has parental responsibility he will be expected to take care of your child.

I know one family where the dying mother was desparate to prevent the children going to their previously abusive father and appointed guardians. The father sent a solicitors letter to the guardians and they had to relinquish the children before the funeral had even taken place. Father took the children to the funeral which was very very difficult for the mother's family and friends.

joolsybools

He's trying to sell another will imo.

SailorSam

I think you're safer going to a Solicitor to get a will drawn up.you read so many horror stories of Willwriters coming to peoples houses only to add on the charges. I hope you never agreed that they can be one of the Executors

Mojisola

Considering they say this in the T&C, I wouldn't touch them with a barge pole! -

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rpc

The child would not be removed as long as there are family who are willing to care. That is scaremongering.

If dad's name is not on the birth cert, it is a bit more awkward and there will be a bit more heartache. Dad will need to go to court to get legally recognised and receive PR. Make sure dad is on the birth certificate!