If partner gets job while I'm on ESA...?

Nada666

xRaindrops, the original phrasing of your first post was fine. Ignore the complainants.

I may withdraw that reassurance, though, after reading post 9

I was always under the impression (I am not a doctor, this is not a reliable prognosis) that many women suffer far fewer attacks where their husbands are not under their feet all day (and/or vica versa). Just saying. In the longer term you will end up with a higher income as your partner will progress.

bodmil

I would imagine that fending for yourself in known surrounds while hubby is at work is a nice step towards going to work yourself, as you alluded to in your other topic. It sounds win win for both of you.

HB58

Don't forget that there is always the chance of hubby's wages increasing once he is in work. On the other hand, there is little chance of benefits increasing much in the foreseeable future.

xRaindrops

I know we *really* want him to get this job, we see all the pluses involved with that, which is why I asked the question in the OP.

We have budgeted a lot to live on this income (cheapest rent in the area for a 1 bed house, no TV, no paid leisure activities, never have drunk or smoked, buy clothes once in a blue moon or fix what we already own) but I can also see where we can cut down. We could sorn or sell the car which would remove the petrol and car insurance expenses, we could also go back onto a cheaper diet as we were on the cheap-family-recipes.co.uk vegan one before (halved for two people) but we are on our current one (£40pw) for health reasons so I would be hesitant to do that.

I'm sure it is do-able for two people to live on a single 12k income (I find every budgeting journey a fun challenge anyway!) and even though the finances would be tight it should definitely change the dynamics of the household and our wellbeing for the better.
I just hate seeing him going nowhere in life as I feel like I am holding him back, but equally I want to be doing more than living in fear all the time :P

pmlindyloo

On a salary of £12000 a year you may be entitled to some Housing Benefit and Council Tax benefit.

You can put your details into the benefit checker here
http://www.turn2us.org.uk/benefits_search.aspx
as if your OH is working now.

HOWMUCH

You would also be entitled to working tax credit

naturaljazz

You do lose money if your partner gets a job, but to be honest it often works out that this is the best way forward, especially if you are young. He will benefit so much from working, even a few hours volunteering can change ones perspective. I know this from personal experience. I hope you are seeking help for your panic disorder - online help, group stuff (mind, panic group etc) as well as local mental health teams, and meds too. You may want to ask about 'schema therapy' at mental health team; look online for info as well. If you are in the support group for ESA things must be very difficult for you ( i am amazed you are in that group to be fair)..so it will be a struggle for you and again i know this. My son is now on courses and volunteering, something I never would have imagined a few years ago. All the best to you both.

seven-day-weekend

xRaindrops wrote: »

Thanks, that's really helpful information! It's a shame because its a job he really likes the sound of and yet we have worked out how much we would have at the end of the month, tax deducted, and it would be just enough to cover our basic expenses (12k pa).

So in fact you would be able to pay your way if he takes the job. If he can work and has a job offered, then he should take it.