Anyone else walked/walking down the aisle together?

Faith177

I think the idea of him waiting for you and then walking down to collect is family is a nice one. I think it's up to the two of you at the end of the day. Would you have any regrets not doing it your way?

My dad died when I was very young. I am walking in on my own and my brother is giving me away. The thought of walking down with anyone feels wrong to me

faithless

I think you've got to do what feels right to you. I'm kind of looking forward to that 'first look' from h2b as I walk down the aisle, but I'm mentally rebelling against being 'given away' by my dad. Part of it is like Faerie, I'm not a chattel and don't need his permission, also we're not particularly close emotionally, and I'd really rather walk in with my mum, or on my own/with my bridesmaids, but I don't really want to raise it and cause trouble or ill feeling unnecessarily.

Dekazer

I know some people will disagree with my opinion that weddings are not all about the bride and groom, and I think that some compromise is important to make the day special for everyone. When we got married we saw ourselves as the hosts, not the guests of honour.

However, even we were uncompromising in some things. One thing was that we wanted to walk down the 'aisle' together. We married in a registry office, but even they offered us the chance to do our legal declarations separately so I could make an entrance.

How it worked was that my husband arrived first, and he and the guests waited in the ante room together. We were the first wedding after the lunch break, so we weren't waiting for a previous wedding to end. We had 80 guests at the ceremony, and they all just waited together and had photos etc.

I arrived slightly later with my parents and friends and family who had met at our hotel. We had a bit of time outside then in a lobby having photos etc.

Then, all my guests went into the ante room and I waited alone in the lobby. My groom then came out to meet me, and that was the first time we saw one another that day. I hadn't planned it, but my photographer sensibly followed him and got photos of that first private meeting, bless her! That's the photo we have framed on our bedroom wall

The registrar came out and met us, and said we should walk through the ante room and follow her into the ceremony room to do the legal bits. When we walked through we got a bit cheer and applause from our guests, which was ace. I guess we could have gone through a secret way, so they hadn't seen us, but we were happy with it like that.

After doing the legal bits, the registrar put us in a side room while the guests were seated. We stood there giggling like schoolkids!

Then, finally, we made our 'official' entrance and walked down the 'aisle' to the registrar. Wonderful. The photos of that are great too.

I have to say I absolutely loved the way we did it. I think my Dad was a bit disappointed, but our relationship's not all that great tbh. He and my mother (they're divorced) both walked me down the road from the hotel, so they sort of got that bit to enjoy. Dad also got to do a speech, so he got his father of the bride bit.

Walking in together felt fun, special to us, equal, like a partnership, and a bit conspiratorial. We loved it and I'm so glad I didn't compromise and do what lots of people tried to make me do

sheeppappar

Hello!
We are walking down the aisle together in our registry office in August.
I think people might think it's a bit weird but that's what we want to do. We will also be getting ready together at our house and going to the ceremony in the same taxi
I think it's important to consider the effect on your dad but if you're honest about why you want to do it I'm sure it will be fine. I have an amazing relationship with my dad but I agree with previous posters.. I'm nobody's possession - not my dad's now, and not Mr Sheep's after we are married - so "giving away" seems a bit irrelevant. It's lovely for people who want the grand entrance + tradition but if you don't want that - don't do it!! xx
have a lovely wedding day whatever you decide x

rebeccatom

We did, and it was perfect. I don't have a father around and as me and OH have been together for 12 years, I didn't feel it right that anyone "give" me to him. Rather than walking in together, he was waiting for me at the top of the aisle and so I walked a tiny bit on my own. that way he had his seeing me all done up moment but also had the we are going into this together feeling IYKWIM.

It was perfect for us and that is what matters, not what everyone else thinks.