Things people say about getting a job that really wind you up

Yulter

coolcait wrote: »

And yet a woman I know has given up the career she worked hard to achieve, so that she can follow her culinary hobby full-time...

She's making more money out of it than her 'real' career, and her 'new' career is now a successful business.

Reading this thread makes me wonder what - if anything - it is acceptable to say to people who are looking for work.

If you try to be interested, and positive, and offer suggestions, then apparently that just p*sses people off.

If you try to empathise with their difficulties, then you're being negative and p*ssing them off.

If you point out that they have a real talent and skill for something which is outside the career box they're looking at, then you p*ss them off.

If you work in the job centre, or similar, and you ask a neutral open question like 'How's the job search going?', you'll p*ss them off.

Any tips on what the rest of us can say, which won't p*ss you off, if you're looking for a job?

How about don't ask or talk about it? You really think they want to talk about it? If they did or had got a job or similar I am pretty sure they would tell you.

Nothing worse then someone who has no clue how hard it is currently, trying to give "advice".

Everyone seems to think you are not trying hard enough or are being lazy, because when they got their job it was not as hard, hell even if it was they seem to have very short memorys.

Agree with pretty much all the posts here, job centre being the biggest offender, no help what so ever simply patronise you every chance they get.

Hang_Tight_Harry

purpledonkey wrote: »

I'm so glad I'm not the only one that feels this way. I've been baking to pass the time and give me a sense of doing something and I know people mean well but they keep suggesting I do it full time. I have to subtly remind them that I spent 4 years studying and then a further 4 years trying to get somewhere in my chosen industry.

Frankly, I'm amazed you can afford to bake, being unemployed. I also am a keen baker and am well aware of the costs involved. Unless you use really cheap ingredients, it is always cheaper to buy a cake than bake one (although not as tasty or satisfying).

November5th

The JC advisor last week was really bad. I had just had 8 interviews in 4 days (I try not to do that as it is harder to 'give your all') but it was the week after Bank Holiday and the dam broke on a few of my applications, so I was pretty pleased.
He said i was looking for the wrong jobs, because I wasn't getting any I interviewed for. I told him that while a lot of companies are interviewing, they are not hiring so quickly (in 27 interviews, I only know of 3 positions that actually were filled).

Why could he not just have swallowed the wasp he was chewing and say well done?

He the said I should go for admin jobs. I said I am not sure I am qualified or have the experience they want. He said to me that you didn't have to be qualified or experienced to get a job in the public sector.

???????????????

1. Seriously? So he admits he is clearly not qualified or experienced. He does chew gum with his mouth open in front of his clients.
2. So this is what he thinks it is like everywhere else. Skills and experience don't count.

I have signed up to temp agencies for office work, no takers so far...

falko89

The one that really gets me is,

It's easier to get a job when you already have one.
Really? That's never been my experience, I've never moved from one job to another, its only when I've been unemployed I got another job.

ferien_uk2011

I am employed now, but have had several periods of unemployment in the past, and it annoys me when friends talk hypothetically about if they lost their job, and how they'd just walk into another one. 'Oh I'd just take anything to tide me over until something better came along'.

a) don't you think employers know you're just taking this to tide you over and b) it makes me wonder if they were questioning why I had such difficulty finding something if they think it is so easy

When you're unemployed (and genuinely want a job), it affects your self-esteem and so anything people say makes you feel as though they're secretly judging you.

AP007

falko89 wrote: »

The one that really gets me is,

It's easier to get a job when you already have one.
Really? That's never been my experience, I've never moved from one job to another, its only when I've been unemployed I got another job.

My old boss just got a new job and the 1st question the agency asked him was 'are you working' - if he had said no they told him they would not have been able to help him.