Can i get help if i leave work to look after baby?

NewLifeAhead_2

The forum files mean nothing to some. It appears most people on this board,obviously don't claim benefits considering their intolerance for anyone who does,so i can think of no other reason they frequent this area of mse than to belittle and judge.
but we're not all like that :-D
OP, don't feel guilty about wanting to raise your child yourself, if its the best thing for you then its the right thing. Don't ever let anyone tell you they are personally paying for your child through their taxes. They are under the illusion that if there were no benefit system, their taxes would be lower :-D
Good luck in all you do i hope you follow the good advice others have posted xx

embob74

I would like to add that unless you have lots of children it will be a very tight budget on benefits.
I found that it really paid to go to work when I was a single parent - I felt like they were throwing money at me. I enjoyed being somebody other than "mum" and my child LOVED being at nursery - they do so many great activities.
Have you thought about asking your employer if they would let you return on a part-time basis?
It is hard to leave your baby but unfortunately as soon as you leave the workforce it can be very hard to get back in it and may mean future jobs are less skilled and lower paid.

mazza111

ILW wrote: »

Possibly an interest in what is happening with the money that is taken from them.

Doesn't matter one iota. You're here as a guest of MSE. It's rude not to follow the rules they have set out.

I really don't understand why people need reminded of this over and over again.

ILW

mazza111 wrote: »

Doesn't matter one iota. You're here as a guest of MSE. It's rude not to follow the rules they have set out.

I really don't understand why people need reminded of this over and over again.

What rules have not been followed?

mazza111

ILW wrote: »

What rules have not been followed?

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/365935

neverdespairgirl

loulou1980 wrote: »

It never ceases to amaze me that most people would not leave a million pounds (if they were lucky enough to have it) with a virtual stranger to look after, but can't understand why a parent would feel uncomfortable (or refuse to) leave a baby with, in many cases, a virtual stranger.

I think most parents are very careful about those with whom they leave their infants.

We certainly were - I spent a fortnight with Isaac (then a baby) and his future carer, and spoke on the phone, and then met up with, the family she'd worked for before she came to us. The interaction between Sam and the children was the most important thing to see - she'd been with them for 10 years, and they obviously loved her dearly.

My son's now 7, 8 in June, and Sam's still with us. She's part of our family.

Rachlou

And i will do - but she will be able to talk by then!

baza52 wrote: »

You will have to start trusting people when she starts school.

notanewuser

Rachlou wrote: »

And i will do - but she will be able to talk by then!

My DD has just started playgroup 3 mornings a week. She's just turned 2.5. I have stayed at home with her for this long, and nursery is now a real blessing. They do activities with her that I couldn't begin to put together. It gives me time to get things done. DD walked and talked early - I trust the nursery staff implicitly, and that DD would be anle to tell me if somebody had hurt her (I get a full recount at the end of every session). The setting has lots of windows and they welcome parental involvement.

I've loved having her (pretty much) to myself for 2.5 years, but this new phase is really working for both of us.

Don't write off 5 years now, take it month by month.

(I prepared for *years* to be able to take this time off so do it without benefit support - that's not a situation I'd ever feel comfortable with personally.)