Somebody please read the signals for me!

Maureen43

So...I met a guy from Match last night on a first date. Really nice bloke and had a lovely time. Lots in common and time flew. At the end of the evening we both said we had enjoyed it, quick peck on the cheek, and we both went our respective ways.

This evening I sent him an email through Match saying, among other things "I enjoyed last night" (so making it clear I'd like to see him again).

He has replied saying, among other things "Yes last night was good, didn't realise that much time had passed, so I must have been enjoying your company"

However, he hasn't asked to see me again. Do you think he is mulling it over, or do you think he is "just not that into me"?

I have absolutely no idea what to do now! Help please.....

notanewuser

Reply with "fancy doing it again sometime?"

ValHaller

Maureen43 wrote: »

.... I have absolutely no idea what to do now! Help please.....

Well, you have gone and done it, so too late to ask what you should do. Unless you are so into him that you want to throw yourself over him, you should have waited for him to make a move. Now you have made your move, he does not need to bother so much, so you have cut yourself off from a channel of information.

marisco_2

Maureen43 wrote: »

However, he hasn't asked to see me again. Do you think he is mulling it over, or do you think he is "just not that into me"?

I have absolutely no idea what to do now! Help please.....

He made positive comments about the time you spent together. It might just be that he had things to do, so had to come away from the online chat. Give it a day or so and see if he responds again. If he does great, if he doesn't it is his loss

Imp

Why play games? You want to see him again; make it happen.

kremmen

ValHaller wrote: »

Well, you have gone and done it, so too late to ask what you should do. Unless you're so into him that you want to throw yourself over him, you should have waited for him to make a move. Now you have made your move, he does not need to bother so much, so you have cut yourself off from a channel of information.

Really can't agree. Some (most) of us blokes are worse at reading signals than some of the girls.
The dilemma of having to make the 1st move and when to do that is all part of blokey conditions. It's refreshing that you have felt able to do so.
Cant really be much more help but it can do no harm to ask if he wants a repeat and if you don't then you may never know.

Welcome to my world.
Good luck.

Paul

Cherry_Bomb

Sounds to me like he was letting you down but trying to do it gently with the 'I must have enjoyed your company' comment

If he was interested he would have asked to see you again.

ViolaLass

Cherry_Bomb wrote: »

If he was interested he would have asked to see you again.

Equally, she's interested in seeing him again but hasn't asked.

Just ask!

Cherry_Bomb

ViolaLass wrote: »

Equally, she's interested in seeing him again but hasn't asked.

Just ask!

Considering she emailed him the same night as their date it would be pretty obvious she's interested yet he's not responding to this.

Cherry_Bomb

Woah I just noticed this was only last night!

Cool it OP! Give the guy a chance before you scare him off!

Maureen43

Cherry_Bomb wrote: »

Woah I just noticed this was only last night!

Cool it OP! Give the guy a chance before you scare him off!

I told you I had no idea how to play it! In my day you met a boy at a disco, "got off" with him and then you were "going out" until one or other of you "finished with" with the other.

I was with my ex for 23 years so this is all new to me