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Can we afford a child?

Hi. I need some advice.

I'm in a strong and loving marriage with my new Husband. We've been together for 8 years and married for 9 months. We are living in our first home together and have a pet together.

I'm a qualified Teaching Assistant, but work in a fast-food restaraunt until I can find work in a school. I work full-time and I'm on National Minimum Wage. My Husband is unemployed. He has severe dyslexia and is finding it very difficult to get a job as a result (this shouldn't make any difference in this day and age, but it obviously still does - the Jobcentre has called him "thick" because he can't fill out forms).

We are free of debts, and have no issues regarding over-spending or impulse-buying. We are always careful on our outgoings and save money wherever possible.

We feel we are ready to start a family in many ways, but there is one factor that greatly concerns me - can we afford to in our current financial circumstances? Do we both need decent jobs, or would we be able to manage on one income?

I want the best start possible for our child, and I want to know they won't be taken away from us because we can't afford.

Any help and advice would be greatly appreciated.
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  • sharp910sh
    sharp910sh Posts: 523 Forumite
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    What is your salary? That is the question. Will you return to work
  • Newly-Wed wrote: »
    .... My Husband is unemployed. He has severe dyslexia and is finding it very difficult to get a job as a result (this shouldn't make any difference in this day and age, but it obviously still does - the Jobcentre has called him "thick" because he can't fill out forms).
    ...

    errr ... what?

    There is never a "right time". Whenever it happens, you'll adapt. If you plan for 9 months time, it could happen in 24 months. You'll deal with it ... there's no manuals.
  • DannyBo
    DannyBo Posts: 5,227 Forumite
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    Newly-Wed wrote: »
    Hi. I need some advice.

    I'm in a strong and loving marriage with my new Husband. We've been together for 8 years and married for 9 months. We are living in our first home together and have a pet together.

    I'm a qualified Teaching Assistant, but work in a fast-food restaraunt until I can find work in a school. I work full-time and I'm on National Minimum Wage. My Husband is unemployed. He has severe dyslexia and is finding it very difficult to get a job as a result (this shouldn't make any difference in this day and age, but it obviously still does - the Jobcentre has called him "thick" because he can't fill out forms).

    We are free of debts, and have no issues regarding over-spending or impulse-buying. We are always careful on our outgoings and save money wherever possible.

    We feel we are ready to start a family in many ways, but there is one factor that greatly concerns me - can we afford to in our current financial circumstances? Do we both need decent jobs, or would we be able to manage on one income?

    I want the best start possible for our child, and I want to know they won't be taken away from us because we can't afford.

    Any help and advice would be greatly appreciated.

    Sorry to be blunt but no you can't - if you have to ask such a ridiculous question.

    Having a child doesn't revolve around having money.

    No need to thank me.
    Turn your car around.
  • suki1964
    suki1964 Posts: 14,313 Forumite
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    Yes

    As long as you satisfy the minimum working hours, ctc and wtc will kick in
  • Apologies - I forgot to mention I am planning on returning to work after Maternity Leave. I guess I'll have to if my income is the only one coming in (which I guess will save on Childcare costs if my Husband is not working).
  • warehouse
    warehouse Posts: 3,362 Forumite
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    OP, if everyone waited until they could afford to have a child then nobody would ever have one.
    Pants
  • sharp910sh
    sharp910sh Posts: 523 Forumite
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    I will have kids when I am on £40k a year minimum/
  • suki1964
    suki1964 Posts: 14,313 Forumite
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    edited 7 March 2013 at 12:37AM
    sharp910sh wrote: »
    I will have kids when I am on £40k a year minimum/


    That's why now at 49,I'm childless


    Don't wait for children, you may find the choice is removed
  • Robin_TBW
    Robin_TBW Posts: 498 Forumite
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    If you even have to ask this question to strangers then the answer is no.

    You've got a household with one minimum wage income... let's face it, you knew the answer.
  • suki1964
    suki1964 Posts: 14,313 Forumite
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    Robin_TBW wrote: »
    If you even have to ask this question to strangers then the answer is no.

    You've got a household with one minimum wage income... let's face it, you knew the answer.

    Obviously not heard about benefits :D
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