DH coming home from new job upset what do i do?

lindseykim13

Quick story short Dh had to give up his job approx 8mths ago due to my illness i needed the help. Once i was well enough we decided it was time to job hunt again.
He got quite lucky and with his training and skills he bagged a local job within 3 weeks of searching.
We were both happy that he'd be earning again and i could go back to looking after the kids on my own.

However he was ok the first week but he mentioned most of his colleagues are blanking him. I had said just give it some time and see how it goes i'm sure they will warm to him. Another week went by and he seemed a little better, but only 2 people will talk to him.
Then today he's broken down on me saying he got a massive telling off for making a small mistake on something. I'm taking shouted at big style infront of the whole shop floor. He obviously appologised and said that he would have happily fixed the mistake had he been told. However this supervisor took it upon himself to say he's had to fix it and it just wasn't good enough.
Then it all comes out how everyone is still ignoring him and huddling around at breaks ect and literally wont let him join in any conversation ect including his supervisor.
It also turns out that the person who had taken DH on is not liked by anyone on the shop floor. In my opinion they are taking it out on my DH.

I feel really bad as DH has done nothing wrong, he went for a job, passed the tests and was given a job which he was doing fine until today.
My question really is as a wife what am i supposed to do? I really don't want to go through the job hunting again as really it's an ideal job. However i won't let DH go through this sort of crap every day.
I don't want him getting depressed ect-it's making me worry like anything and i just don't know what to do for the best.

Counting_Pennies_2

I am sorry to hear about this.

He did really well picking up another job so quickly, do you think he could do the same again?

If so I put advise him to put in a complaint to the supervisors boss and look for other work

becominganobsessivesaver

He found a job within weeks, which is fantastic. He should see if there is anything else out there, and try for a new job, while persevering with the current one.

Molly41

Treevo wrote: »

Tell him to grow up? He's an adult, not a school child. Who cares if some people he works with don't talk to him?

Twit.......

meritaten

he shouldn't be shouted at out on the shop floor. He could go in tomorrow and quietly inform the supervisor if he ever does that again a complaint against him will go to management. Then go out and do his job! meanwhile, look for another one - I wouldn't want to work for this company!

TimBear

Treevo wrote: »

Tell him to grow up? He's an adult, not a school child. Who cares if some people he works with don't talk to him?

Not very helpful. To be singled out and shouted at on the shop floor is not acceptable at work. Granted, no one will be best friends with everyone they work with but no one should feel uncomfortable at work, given most of us spend most of our waking day there.

Beckyy

I would look for another job. High-school atmosphere aside, if those above him are just as childish then it's not going to be a nice place to work whichever side you're on. I'd just try and be as supportive as you can and try to help him find another job asap.

Northern_Princess

Treevo wrote: »

Tell him to grow up? He's an adult, not a school child. Who cares if some people he works with don't talk to him?

My goodness, you are a little ray of sunshine :eek:

OP as others have said he managed to get a job very quickly, but he has been with the company a very short period of time so I honestly don't think I would 'rock the boat' with the supervisor just yet in making complaints etc.

I think he should speak to the Supervisor and make it clear he didn't appreciate being spoken to the way he was and ask that should the supervisor have any issues in future they raise it constructively with him.

As for the other employees ignoring him, well, it can take time to be accepted by people especially if they have been a close knit team. It also takes time to settle back into a working environment especially after a long period of time off. Perhaps he's worried about how you're coping at home without him? I'd try and concentrate on the positives of his job and that he's earning again and seems his 'ideal job'.

lindseykim13

He can take the telling off he says he's seen it all before he's most deffinatly not childish he just can't undestand why a quite word would not have got a better result. These other collegues are the imature ones huddled around in a little gang, so he has been going with the attitude of getting on with his job which was going fine. I think the shouting has just pushed him over the edge today and he is more worried that he's letting his family down if they decide not to keep him on after his probabtion period.
He wishes he could have his old job back which makes me feel bad!

pupsicola

Treevo wrote: »

Tell him to grow up? He's an adult, not a school child. Who cares if some people he works with don't talk to him?

What is wrong with you Treevo? How is your advice in any way helpful or constructive?

No-one would wish to work in an environment they felt uncomfy in. It is plain rude to blank colleagues and refuse to speak with them. The way the OPs husband was approached and told off in front of other colleagues was really unprofessional.

Mummy_Dfw

Hi

Not much to add but I understand where your husband is coming from. I have recently left my job due to a horrible working environment and also high school mentality of colleagues.

In previous work history of 14 years in various jobs, I have to say I've never been so unhappy as this most recent placement. I put up with it for a year, it has now left me wary and tired of people.

Support your husband by listening to him and encourage him to stay whilst looking for another job ASAP.