relationships

Joons

Judi wrote: »

Good for you, you are obviously self sufficient in every way but i'm not.

I need someone who i can look after (and who can look after me).
I need someone who i can talk to and trust (and vice versa).
I need someone who can do the things that i cant do (and i can do the same in return).
I need a man who can fulfill me sexually (DIY isnt the same).
I need a man who thinks i'm the best woman in the world (even if i am a lousy cook).

Maybe i'm just weak.:(

You don't sound weak, you sound assertive.

Find_The_Real

I think it is something that is very much down to the individual, having had 2 relationships of living with people I have learnt I am really not suited to that and I am very happy in my own company but I appreciate probably the majority are not like that.

I think the terms of need and want with a relationship are pretty close and if that is what makes a person happy then I can understand why people seek to be in one.

January20

maintenanceman wrote: »

I really don't understand the need t be in a relationship.

I really don't understand why people question why I am not in a relationship, why I am not bothered and why I am not interested in online dating! :mad:

Actually, it's not quite true: I believe it's because they are jealous of my happiness, my freedom and they want me to be as miserable as they are :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

heartbreak_star

I don't need a relationship. I want to be with my partner, and he wants to be with me, and that's what makes it right.

HBS x

ruby-roo_2

Have you recently been with someone high maintenance and are now worn out by it all? Been there and done that

maman

Interesting question.

I am in a great relationship and it suits me fine but I do notice that people have different attitudes.

I've known women (but some men might be the same) who when a relationship breaks down are desperate to find a new man. It's not really that they've even really tried living alone. The moment one man leaves they're out looking for another. It's as if being without a current partner is something to be ashamed of or they just can't function as an individual.

That's what I don't understand.

P.S. Under most circumstances it wouldn't bother me how other people live but when it invloves multiple childen and fathers/uncles then I'm critical.

System

Joons wrote: »

You don't sound weak, you sound assertive.

If knowing what i want/need is being assertive, yes i suppose i am.:)

System

I don't NEED to be in a relationship but i do like being with my bf. He adds something special to my life.

CupOfChai

maman wrote: »

Interesting question.

I am in a great relationship and it suits me fine but I do notice that people have different attitudes.

I've known women (but some men might be the same) who when a relationship breaks down are desperate to find a new man. It's not really that they've even really tried living alone. The moment one man leaves they're out looking for another. It's as if being without a current partner is something to be ashamed of or they just can't function as an individual.

That's what I don't understand.

P.S. Under most circumstances it wouldn't bother me how other people live but when it invloves multiple childen and fathers/uncles then I'm critical.

I've known a man who seemed to be like that, jumping straight from one relationship to another as though he was utterly unable to be single. Never understood it. I also don't understand how people who do that find another partner so quickly, it isn't very nice to say they mustn't be that picky but surely if they were very picky it would take them much longer to find someone else they liked that way and form a new relationship?

Skintski

CupOfChai wrote: »

I've known a man who seemed to be like that, jumping straight from one relationship to another as though he was utterly unable to be single. Never understood it. I also don't understand how people who do that find another partner so quickly, it isn't very nice to say they mustn't be that picky but surely if they were very picky it would take them much longer to find someone else they liked that way and form a new relationship?

Someone I know got ditched by her fiance of 7 years, ten months before their wedding, tried to do herself in by overdose on the Wednesday night and was texting a new guy on the Saturday of the same week like nothing had ever happened. No exaggeration I promise. She was desperate not to be single. That's seriously messed up.