For or against favours?

DubPrincess

Hello everyone
I'm getting married August 2014 and have pretty much sorted everything.
The one thing I haven't done is favours...
I'm not sure that I want to either. It seems like a lot of money to spend on sweets or little tokens that will be gone or lost in seconds. Especially as there will be cake so I don't see the need for additional sweets (the buffet is afternoon tea so even more cakes there).
If I was going to do favours I would do a charity donation on behalf of each guest which gets them a little badge and certificate, probably boring but it would mean more to me than a bag of sugared almonds.
My mum is in full agreement with me on this, however my inlaws are not and are forever suggesting the things we should have as gifts for the guests.
Is anyone else leaving them out? I don't want to sound really stingy but I will have just paid for a meal and alcohol for everyone!

Thanks for any opinions

xxx

wendz86

Hi,

I am planning to leave them out. I have been to weddings without them and hasn't felt like there was anything missing.

PasturesNew

Complete waste of money - nobody wants or needs them.... they'll be broken, dropped or discarded .... use the money in ways that'll make you feel is a better use of it.

anibell

I think you should do what you want. It's your wedding

We did have favours but that was our personal choice. Extremely MSE though!

I like the idea of a charitable donation

LEJC

personally I always take the favour even if its something I wouldnt use/need....basically ive seen so many left behind that actually i feel sorry that they are so little regarded amonst fellow guests....i do try to make use of them....packets of seeds are sprinkled in my garden,tea lights burnt,chocolates eaten lottery tickets checked etc etc...but I did struggle a little with the keyring bearing a bride and grooms intwined initial and the wedding date...so that just sits on my key hook at home!!


I think the idea of a simple card saying in place of a favour a donation has been made to charity is a lovely idea

I also think that a lot of guests just get stuck into the meal etc that they tend to forget the favour that been left for them or that its too big to fit easily or discreatly into a pocket that they just leave them on the table when they get up!

74jax

DubPrincess wrote: »

My mum is in full agreement with me on this, however my inlaws are not and are forever suggesting the things we should have as gifts for the guests.
Is anyone else leaving them out? I don't want to sound really stingy but I will have just paid for a meal and alcohol for everyone!

Thanks for any opinions

xxx

If the in laws are paying for them, then tbh I'd probably let them pick what they want (you may be arguing about something else later on that you REALLY don't want to back down on :rotfl:).

If they are expecting you to pay for the favours, and you don't even want them, I'd tell them to stick their beak somewhere it is wanted (more politely though of course).

Lilith1980

I won't be having favours, I like the idea of the charitable donation though. I think you should go for that if you want to. It's your wedding, other people like putting their views across but there's nothing that says you have to go with what other people say

ladymarmalade

I don't think we will be having them. They always get left behind and I have been to a few wedding recently that didn't have them and I didn't even realise for a few days afterwards!

jtr2803

Yep, we are, rolls of love heart sweets with personalised wrappers, worked out 12p a favour....hardly a lot of money wasted.

If they get left, I'll eat them myself :rotfl:

Pinzy

It's your wedding. I love the idea of a charitable donation, and I should imagine most of the guests will too. I think if anyone looks forward to "getting something" at a wedding (not that they should), it's the free food and booze! In all the weddings I've been too, the favours have consisted of a few sweets in a box/bag. (Generally a few quality streets in an organza bag, or my sister put heart shaped chocs in red boxes.) I don't see the point of trinkets that'll likely never be used. We, I admit, have gone a little overboard and spent £65, I did mention to the OH that it would've only cost a tenner to do quality street & organza bags!
I do really love the charity idea, it's obviously important to you, and will be better used.

Moomum

Best favours ive had at a wedding were little net bags of mini chocolate bars, everyone loved them and we all broke the ice swapping our favourites :-) tbh everything else I've always left or thrown away once home. Love hearts would go down well too as a pp has said.