Anyone recommend books on puberty please?

Person_one

Nicki wrote: »

At 7? Really?

I have a 13 year old son and a daughter who will be 12 in a few days time. Neither of them have "nearly finished" puberty - both are in the early stages.

I bought my DS "Living with a willy" when he was 11 in his first year at secondary school and made clear that it wasn't instead of him being able to ask either myself or his dad questions, but a reference book if there were things he's rather not ask about. We have had the "safe sex" conversation both from a practical and a moral standpoint and some discussions about the physical side of things.

DD has severe learning difficulties so the references I've used for her probably aren't appropriate for the OP.

My personal opinion is that unless there are signs that either child has precocious puberty, that addressing these issues at any stage between about 10 and 13 is spot on, so I don't really understand why OP has come in for any criticism about leaving the purchase of books to the age of 12, particularly when its clear conversations have already taken place on the subject.

We had the Usborne growing up book in the house from being about 5 and 7, yes. It has straightforward pictures of genitals, descriptions and pictures of sexual intercourse and frank clear information about things such as orgasm and wet dreams.

I started developing breasts when I was in junior 2 and started periods at 11, I wasn't that unusual and wasn't the first in my class! Like lots of girls I was very nearly my adult height and more or less had my adult body by 13. I was definitely exploring my sexuality and interested in boys by then, so I'm really really glad I had always known all the facts. Even today at nearly 30 I often have to explain things about sex, STIs, reproduction etc. to my friends and am eternally grateful to my parents!

Giving children factual information early does absolutely no harm, hanging on for some reason and leaving it too late definitely can.

squibbs25

Hi op, I can recommend a book for your daughter it's called zits,glitz and body bits. I think it's very cleverly written (in a way that girls can understand rather than be afraid of) my daughter has this book as I purchased it from the book people. Covers all topics from puberty and feelings and further on to pregnancy etc.
I can't remember off hand the author but will look if your interested.

suki1964

Person_one wrote: »

We had the Usborne growing up book in the house from being about 5 and 7, yes. It has straightforward pictures of genitals, descriptions and pictures of sexual intercourse and frank clear information about things such as orgasm and wet dreams.

I started developing breasts when I was in junior 2 and started periods at 11, I wasn't that unusual and wasn't the first in my class! Like lots of girls I was very nearly my adult height and more or less had my adult body by 13. I was definitely exploring my sexuality and interested in boys by then, so I'm really really glad I had always known all the facts. Even today at nearly 30 I often have to explain things about sex, STIs, reproduction etc. to my friends and am eternally grateful to my parents!

Giving children factual information early does absolutely no harm, hanging on for some reason and leaving it too late definitely can.

Thought you were childless?

paye

no disrespect to the OP but shouldn't you let your son find out about puberty himself. let nature run its course and he will find out about all this in his own time. Why the rush.


check this site out, saves you buying a book.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/humanbody/body/interactives/lifecycle/teenagers/

suki1964

Person_one wrote: »

Huh? Have I accidentally invented some children somewhere in that post? I'll have to re-read it...

No. Just the way you were berating the op for being so late on deciding when to do the birds and bees with the child they had raised, you were coming over like a old expert on child raising

Why not just advise that the books you were given were great for you and allow the op to raise their kids how they feel fit?


I know damn well that whilst I myself was fit for the most graphic of detail at 10, my sister was still burying her head in the sand at 13

eezer

I'd recommend 'Living with a Willy'. The book's quite a good read too. My son and daughter both had a good read finding it funny but also very informative.

paye

when I was 6 or 7 years old I use to think babies were born by the women eating a lot of food looool I look back it now and laugh with the mrs. :rotfl: this is what I will probably tell my kids when they ask me how babies are born lool

suki1964

paye wrote: »

when I was 6 or 7 years old I use to think babies were born by the women eating a lot of food looool I look back it now and laugh with the mrs. :rotfl:

Flip, if you we're to go by that logic,an awful lot of pregnant women walking about :rotfl: :rotfl:

squibbs25

I found it on amazon (I bought from Book People)
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Zits-Glitz-Body-Jeanne-Willis/dp/1406323675/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1361431423&sr=8-1

HTH

For a boy I've heard Living with a Willy is a good book.

dll74

Giving children factual information early does absolutely no harm, hanging on for some reason and leaving it too late definitely can.[/QUOTE]

Hanging on for some reason? Where have I said or implied that my children have no introduction to this subject? I have discussed it with them. The school has discussed it with them. They have had lessons on keeping themselves safe/healthy relationships/sexual health et al. Is it so very difficult to believe that I would like a couple of books?
Whether you have children (and that apparantley seems up for debate?) or not does it really seem likely that a school nowadays would not give pupils a decent grounding in these subjects?
I am trying very hard to care when you finished puberty but just can't. Sorry.
I asked for book recommendations not a blow by blow account of when your bits developed.
Thanks to the posters who gave good recommendations much appreciated.