How many people on top table?

daisiegg

Simple question - how many people are you having on your top table?

We were intially having 7. Myself and H2B, my parents, his mother, best man and maid of honour.

However in doing the seating plan I am really struggling to place OH's 16 year old daughter (and her boyfriend). She won't know anyone else at the wedding. So I thought a solution might be to put them on the top table...which brings it to 9.

Does this sound ok or a bit excessive?

Thanks!

lisajane8482

We have 10. Myself, H2B, our 2 daughters, my parents, his mum, his 2 best men and my maid of honour so doesn't sound excesive at all.

HTH

daisiegg

lisajane8482 wrote: »

We have 10. Myself, H2B, our 2 daughters, my parents, his mum, his 2 best men and my maid of honour so doesn't sound excesive at all.

HTH

Thank you!

mummybearx

I had me and DH, my dad and his girlfriend, Dh's mum and dad, two of my three bridesmaids and the two best men. So 10 in total

lazer

We had

Myself & my Husband
2 sets of parents
2 bridesmaids
Bestman & Groomsman
Priest

So 11

floss2

We had 8 - my 2 grown-up sons (one of whom gave me away, the other was doing father-of-bride speech), me & DH, his parents, best man & bridesmaid.

OP, will you sit your OH's daughter & boyfriend together, as it may unbalance your planning? Or is there any family that she will know whom they could sit with?

daisiegg

floss2 wrote: »

We had 8 - my 2 grown-up sons (one of whom gave me away, the other was doing father-of-bride speech), me & DH, his parents, best man & bridesmaid.

OP, will you sit your OH's daughter & boyfriend together, as it may unbalance your planning? Or is there any family that she will know whom they could sit with?

We're already unbalanced as OH's father is deceased so in terms of m/f ratio on the top table it already doesn't work so I really don't care about that. Is that what you mean by unbalanced? Do you mean in terms of gender balance? A bit confused

Nope - no family she could sit with which is why I said in my OP that she won't know anyone

Brighton_belle

I think the kindest thing to do is to place your OH's DD and boyfriend on your top table regardless of whether it would be excessive or not (which is what I think you are going to do, as you always strike me as a kind and consoderate person).
She won't know anyone else and this will make her feel special and totally included in the 'most important people to you both'.

I think top tables can be a lot bigger than 9 from what I have seen over the years. From memory I think you are having a fairly big wedding, so a table of 9 would not be disproprotiately big anyway. BUt even if it was smallish, it wouldn't matter.

We didn't have one at all, which suited our needs. We sat folks were we thought they would be happiest, depending on their ability to mingle with strangers well or not/need to see family they didn't see often.

new2saving

Hi Daisiegg,

Also having top table dilemma, I definately dont think your top table of 9 is too much.

I am thinking of having h2b, me, mother & father of groom & bestman, father of bride and his partner, mother of the bride, and my 2 bridesmaids. this makes 10 just hoping it will not be too awkward having dad with his partner (been with her since i was 10 so couldn't not ask her to be on top table) but my mother will be on her own. Makes for very awkward seating and a very female top table but I'm sure I'll sort something out - lol.

Families, who would have them! lol x

apple*pie

Daisiegg, are there not any of OH's family there that she knows that she could sit with? If I didn't know anyone else there, I'd probably feel a bit self conscious being centre of attention sitting on the top table...

I've also got top table dilemmas!
Mum and Dad are separated, both have their own long term partners.
OH's dad is deceased.
Having one adult bridesmaid, but her husband won't know anyone else at the wedding.
I'm not even bothered about top table, but OH thinks it should be the traditional parents, best man (his brother) and bridesmaid, but I don't want my bridesmaid's husband feeling uncomfortable, and mum & dad's partners having to sit separately (although there are plenty of family for them to sit with...)
Any thoughts?!?

PinkPrincess83

I dont think 9 is excessive at all.

We had 8 but we sat on a round table, the same as the rest of our guests and on our table was me and hubby, chief bridesmaid and her bf, a married couple who we are really good friends with, best man and another very good male friend- go with whatever you want, dont feel like you have to follow tradition, plus you would only be one over 'norm anyway', plus wouldnt it be nice for mil2b to have her granddaughter sat with her?

When I was chief bridesmaid there was 9 of us on the top table, b and g, 2 sets of parents, best man, me and brides son, it definately didnt look too long or excessive.