Help with wedding finances

rdwarr

Your wedding day is supposed to be a happy one and yet it's stressing you out months before it happens. I hope you can get the venue sorted but remember that being married is much more important that getting married.

Don't saddle yourselves with years of debt just to provide family and friends with a good day out - it's for you.

Fire_Fox

Don't throw good money after bad, move the wedding date or suck up loss of the deposit. It's crazy to borrow money for a non essential, live within your means - not doing that is what got you a poor credit rating in the first place.

A desirable/ quality venue should be able to resell a July wedding at this stage because normally they'd be fully booked eighteen months ahead, if they have no losses they should not have any to claim from you. If they are not fully booked you chose a turkey of a venue and are better off pulling the plug.

I was in two weddings last summer - my siblings and my best friends - one on a budget in a church hall, one in a massive stately home complete with private 'wing' and all the stops pulled out. I expected the former to be better, the latter to be formal and stilted. In fact both were perfect days and that was down to the love of each couple and the carefully selected guest list. My enduring memories are my best friend in tears as she stepped out of the car with her father, my sibling and their spouse both crying during their respective speeches, a few other emotional, humorous and deeply personal moments that have NOTHING to do with the money or style. :happylove

Katzen

If you post on here how much you've spent on what and then how much you still have to pay for maybe some of us can help advise on cost cutting...

catshark88

How about having a registry office wedding service on the date planned and then rescheduling the big bash for a date in the future, when you've had time to save up for it?

The day will pass in the blink of an eye and it is crazy to leave yourself in long term debt just to be a "princess for a day" (general comment, not aimed specifically at OP).

iolanthe07

having five less people coming for the whole day will save us £450 from the catering bill

Have I read this right? The catering for your guests is £90 EACH? Are you millionaires? What colour is the sky on your planet?

DCFC79

iolanthe07 wrote: »

having five less people coming for the whole day will save us £450 from the catering bill

Have I read this right? The catering for your guests is £90 EACH? Are you millionaires? What colour is the sky on your planet?

Whats the general price per head for catering ?

iolanthe07

Whats the general price per head for catering ?

Surely not £90 each, unless you are seriously rich.

kuohu

Wedding cake shop

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gimiDBAK2wA

DCFC79

iolanthe07 wrote: »

Whats the general price per head for catering ?

Surely not £90 each, unless you are seriously rich.

Yes seems alot, does it depend whats on offer though

I have no idea what is a suitable amount.

worried48

Fredwina wrote: »

having five less people coming for the whole day will save us £450 from the catering bill and still abides by the rules of the contract.

£90 per person? Is that the going rate? Ouch! I find myself wondering why you (not meaning you particularly, but couples in general) don't simply go along to an indian restaurant or similar en masse in the evening. As for the idea of TWO receptions, goodness knows where that came from, it seems to have emerged sometime in the last decade. Before that, it was normal for the bride and groom to depart on honeymoon and that signalled the end of the show and time for the guests to start drifting off home :silenced: