Play Dates

ella2002

What did I do wrong. DD is 4 years old and I invited a friend of hers home for tea. Know Mum to speak to at parties, outside school etc. DD and her dd are really good friends. Anyway on the day went to pick them up from school. The friend didn't want to come home wanted to see her Mum. Both children crying etc so took the friend home. Mum very sorry. She rang the next day could she bring her daughter round next week for a play. said of course she said see you at the party on Saturday we will make a definate arrangement. At the party she made her dd say sorry. I said how about Mon she said yes Monday/tuesday. Didn't see her at school on mon so left a message on her phone on tues seeing if she wanted to come round that evening didn't hear anything.

Savvy_Sue

Maybe her daughter's not well, not in school?

The main thing is, it sounds as if the other little girl isn't quite ready to come and play without her mum, especially after a long day at school. Maybe you could ask mum and daughter to come round first, until the little girl is happier at being without mum.

Main thing is not to take it personally ...

ella2002

Her daughter was in school. The Mum was going to come round with her Mon/Tuesday and have a coffee whilst she played. To be honest I am a bit annoyed as my DD was very upset when she didn't want to come lastw eek and heard the arrangements for Mon/Tues and then was very upset when it hasn't happened

joey_2

I agree with Savvy Sue it sounds as though the little girl is still a bit young for play dates without her mum there. My youngest is 4 and has had a few play-dates but I invited the mum as well and have stayed with dd when she's gone to others. I have had one of her friends around without the mum and tbh it was such hard work cos her attention span was just nil which I'm sure is normal for that age in a different house with all different toys. I was constantly giving different activities and she asked to go home after an hour. Didn't offend me at all - that's just the age they're at!

belfastgirl23

I'd say mum has good intentions to get it organised but something has gotten in the way. You never know what else she has going on in her life or even whether she feels a bit uncomfortable about landing herself round to your house just cos your daughters are friends. Give it time and don't assume the worst.

super41

Well she's either being bad mannered in not getting back to you, or she just forgot and didn't get your message, or something big has cropped up. I wouldn't take it personally until you see her and mention it. I agree with the others sounds like they're a bit young to come and play without Mum. My DD is 5 and 1/2 and still wouldn't be very happy about going to play/tea unless she knew the people well and I had been with her before. To be honest I haven't encouraged her to bring friends home as it can be really hard work with what they'll eat etc. Also she sees them at ballet class and everyday at school so I don't feel its necessary at this stage.
Hope you manage to sort out your misunderstanding, which I'm sure it is.

ella2002

Thanks for the replys will wait and see when I next bump into Mum in the playground