Children being excluded from school

Carfal

Why would anyone want to teach his children and risk being subjected to his comments being aired publically on Facebook? If he felt there his concerns were founded and there was something the school needed to do to address them, he would have gone in and discussed it with them.

He now needs to speak to the head, apologise and show 100% support for his children and their school, or remove them and go elsewhere, bearing in mind that the receiving head teacher will most likely be aware of the parent's inappropriate conduct if the new school is in the same area.

The children are not being excluded. Exclusion is an action at the end of a long line of interventions following a series of serious behavioural incidents or in response to a very serious incident (one which would be considered a criminal act if carried out by an adult, e.g. Possession of drugs or an offensive weapon, or a serious assault).

Poor children. They deserve better than to be caught up in the middle of this.

msb5262

I'd just like to add that while the school cannot exclude the children on account of a parent's behaviour, it is possible for parents to be banned from coming onto school property if their behaviour is deemed to be unacceptable in the extreme. At my school we've had parents banned - the children would be met outside the gate each morning by a member of staff and brought into school that way, then at the end of the day they would be brought out to parents. Sad but inevitable, given the behaviour of the adults concerned...

Nicki

Own_My_Own wrote: »

Who would leave their children in a school they thought was so inadequate , and poorly run ?

johnnyl if you've read any of his posts on any thread remotely pertaining to education

OP - at my DS's last school (where I was a governor) the head's tactic with parents who repeatedly complained about school issues when she thought this was unwarranted, was to ask the school secretary to bring in a transfer form for the children during the meeting, and ask the parent there and then if they wanted to remove their child and place them elsewhere. This was to make a firm point that the parent must put up or shut up. I should say though that complaints which were considered to be reasonable were dealt with very well by that head, but she had no time at all for parents who complained about such things as:

slides in the play area shouldn't be allowed because they were dangerous
snow in the playground should be fully swept up
children should not do shared activities with children in the nearby special school (because the "normal" children would be frightened by the "freaks" :mad:)
yada, yada

marisco_2

The school will be wanting to meet the parent in order to talk through any issues they have. So as to put the parents mind at rest and if necessary resolve any problems. This way they can all move forward positively.

It also gives a secure basis for any future contact with the parent in case of any concerns regarding the children educationally or otherwise. In what other situation would a parent place their child in the care of others where they did not feel able to have any level of positive communication? As a parent you just would not do this would you? OP I urge you to suggest to your friend that a face to face meeting with his childrens' school would be beneficial.

barbarawright

Hanging_by_a_thread wrote: »

Thank you so much for all these links and advice. I am writing this on behalf of a friend.

Basically there is no issue with the children at all, their behaviour and attendance is exemplary and they are progressing well.

The parent feels very disatisfied with the school on a number of issues. He made what was probably a bad choice and had a rant about the school on facebook. I know, I know I have told him this was not wise. Since then the school have written to him suggesting he may wish to go in and discuss these issues with them. He feels this would be a waste of time and that the response would be dismissive, which has been his previous experience.

He is concerned by something written in the last letter that suggests the school feel his opinion of them is so low that any relationship has completely broken down and he may wish to consider moving his children to an alternative school. They have asked again for him to go in and address these issues he has with them. Can the school exclude the children or have them moved solely on this issue if the children have caused no problems or issues at all?

Your friend seems more than capable of accessing the internet for himself - doesn't his interest in his kids' education extend to asking his own questions?

Own_My_Own

Nicki wrote: »

johnnyl if you've read any of his posts on any thread remotely pertaining to education

As you quoted me, I expect I am supposed to understand this.

Sorry but you will have to explain.

marleyboy

The trouble with rants on an open platform like Facebook, is pressing the Enter button. There is an edit\delete button, but most only find that when its too late to rectify it.