CSA bailiff action

Sensemaya

hj10

I've read through the other posters comments and cannot see anyone being judgemental. It's just constructive advice coupled with their experience.

You have received good advice so I suggest you now contact Jeremy Kyle. I'm sure, given the way he speaks to people on his show and whereby you have your life story exposed for all to see and criticise, his 'team' will sort everything out and also offer you emotional support.

clearingout

hj10 wrote: »

Goodness me. I didn't realise people could be so judgemental. I can't believe that I am being told by complete strangers who are depicting my life from a couple of sentences what I already know. Call me stupid yes thanks I know I have been less than sensible in the past but really I don't remember asking for anyone's opinions on my situation. Only for advice about bailiff action etc. Next time I feel like I need someone to lecture me i'll give Jeremy Kyle a call. Anyone that has any actual useful information please feel free to comment. Thank you.

When you post on a public forum, people are going to give their opinions whether or not you want to hear them. I can't be the only one wondering what on earth gives you the right to expect payment of child maintenance if you have previously stood by whilst other children live without financial support from one of their parents. Without wishing for an argument, I have a genuine interest in your motives and reasoning when standing by someone who refuses to pay maintenance - I would be interested in your back story as I think it would help understand my ex and the women he takes up with and thus help me deal with him better which would improve things for our children. You really need to understand, however, that there are people here who are bringing up children born within marriage and long relationships, are struggling to make ends meet and who's children suffer on a daily basis as a direct result of the 'work' of new partners who support the kind of behaviour you are describing. I had to put up with an accountant new partner 'cooking the books' to her advantage which means my 3 children have received nothing at all for over 4 years now.

Bailiff action is unlikely to be successful if he is good at dodging his responsibilities. The bailiffs will try 3 times as I understand it and then pass the issue back to the CSA. The CSA will then look at what else they can do - this could include placing charges against property owned and eventually seeking a forced sale of said property. However, this is a lengthy process and will take years with no guarentee of a happy ending Indeed, it can go this far and then a judge order a token payment of, say, £10 a week towards paying the debt. Don't hold your breath.

sfm82

hj10 wrote: »

I would perhaps be less annoyed if he were unable to pay due to circumstances but seeing as he can afford a brand new sports car and holidays abroad with new partner whilst I am scraping the pennies to pay for dd's schools dinners.

You are also being judgemental of your ex's current cicumstances. What he earns or what his current partner earns is none of your business. All you need to concentrate on is whether or not he has enough income to provide CS for his child as set out by law which you are in the process of doing via the CSA. Let them do their job and give them a poke a few times a month for updates and push them along if they are dragging their feet there's nothing else you can do IF you have an evasive NRP.

Just out of curiosity have you ever tried coming to some sort of private agreement with your childs father?

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galangm8

Own_My_Own wrote: »

I have never had a penny off my ex. I was left with a 4 year old and a 6 week old.
The CSA phoned me last year out of the blue to say they had re-opened the case.
I have never actually gone after him for money myself. He has no contact witself?h my children, and as far as I am concerned he is nothing to them. I very rarely think about him.

Please do not let this rule your live. It will eat away at you. Every time you look at your child just think what he is missing, and how lucky you are.

Can I ask who did exactly go after your children's father for CM and why you yourself did not? Is it because you have plenty of money yourself to provide for all their needs yourself.

Also how can you say their father means nothing to your children, you'll never know, if that until they are adults - what they really felt and now really feel.

Surely by the time your first child was 3yrs and weeks, you had an inkling whether he was 'good' father material or not but you continued to have more children by him...

I knew from the day my eldest was born I would not be having anymore children to my ex.

galangm8

sfm82 wrote: »

You are also being judgemental of your ex's current cicumstances. What he earns or what his current partner earns is none of your business.

Of course it is 'her' business'.

Just out of curiosity have you ever tried coming to some sort of private agreement with your childs father?

How can a PWC come to some sort of private agreement with dad if he couldn't care less if his own child has 'their' daily needs!

lindmy

Csa started bailiffc action in april and can't find him, sighed off benefit jan no work details with employer or self employed have an address not found him over day visits or out of hours bailffs have the case approx 12 weeks maybe s little over and then send back to csa. Awaiting this happening for next steps. Not paid at all since asked for CM in June last year. Got he is confused and run around over wages then
when the told him they were taking legal action in form of liability order disappeared. Hope to get to the end of this sometime thr kids suffer as this goes on friends and family see him regularily shopping going out for nights out we stay at home ss can't afford time out and luxuries. Even when I work full time.