Wreath or Spray?

When attending the funeral of a close friend, is it customary to send/take a Wreath, or a Spray, of flowers?
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  • hardpressedhardpressed Forumite
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    You need to find out what the families wishes are. Often people ask for a donation to a charity instead of flowers If you know who the undertakers are ask them.
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    Usually the notice in the local paper informing of the death and funeral arrangements will say something like "Family flowers only by request. Donations if desired to.............." Then a preferred charity is specified.

    This has been the case in all the funerals I have attended over the past few years.

    If the friend was particularly close and you did feel that flowers were appropriate then it would be up to you what tribute you get.
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    pattycake wrote: »
    Usually the notice in the local paper informing of the death and funeral arrangements will say something like "Family flowers only by request. Donations if desired to.............." Then a preferred charity is specified.

    This has been the case in all the funerals I have attended over the past few years.

    If the friend was particularly close and you did feel that flowers were appropriate then it would be up to you what tribute you get.

    We did this and the family bought one big spray for the top of the coffin. The charity we nominated was very pleased with the donations in lieu of flowers.
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    On consideration, I'm thinking spray.

    I don't want to risk sending a wreath, which overshadows the family one. :embarasse
  • cr1msoncr1mson Forumite
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    What does the funeral notice say?
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    I usually give a wreath for family, spray friend. That seems to be standard in the recent funerals I've been to.

    Is its a burial or cremation? If burial I'd take some rosemary to throw in with the coffin.
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    Contribution to the family's charity of choice. Flowers ate such a waste!
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    cr1mson wrote: »
    What does the funeral notice say?

    I haven't seen it.

    They rang me today, to tell me the date and time of the funeral.
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    I usually give a wreath for family, spray friend. That seems to be standard in the recent funerals I've been to.

    I think I'll go with a spray then.
    Is its a burial or cremation?

    cremation.
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    pollypenny wrote: »
    Contribution to the family's charity of choice. Flowers ate such a waste!

    They haven't mentioned a charity.
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