Feeling Sad

butterflylady

Please feel free to ignore this, it's basically just a rant!!

It's Saturday my kids r with there dad and I'm on my own, I've been in pain for 6/8 weeks been to the drs and hospital who have ruled out anything too nasty, so just rest and no heavy lifting. Even driving hurts so I'm trying to limit that to the days I work, this means I'm walking the kids to and from school on the days I don't work.

I'm feeling fed up as my friends haven't offered to help or even just come round to try and cheer me up. I'll always offer a lift to my friend who doesn't have a car or go and see my friend who doesn't drive, take her food shopping or into town whatever she needs. I'd like to think I'm a kind friend who will do whatever is needed, not that long ago I gave one friend the last of the money in my purse for gas as her house was freezing and their was snow on the ground!!

I'm also trying to sell my house but I've had to put viewings on hold as I can't keep up with the tidying etc.

I no I should get off the sofa and stop whinging but I no it's going to hurt and I can't bare that :-(

meritaten

Is it back pain hun? I know how debilitating that can be! follow drs advice and rest and dont forget that walking is good for bad backs! not too much of course and not at warp speed.
as for your friends, perhaps they dont fully understand your situation and are puzzled that you are not out and about?
text them and say you are virtually housebound apart from the school walk and invite them to coffee?
as for boredom - try a craft? especially if you know that one of your friends is good at one - ask them to teach you!
I do hope your problem improves soon - I have a degenerative disease of the back and have lived with it now for about 20 years - so I DO know how painful and isolating it can be!

butterflylady

Hi,

It's pain down one of my sides into my breast, which sounds really strange, but I can't think of another way to describe it.

I've told my friends about it but either they don't realise how bad it is or actually don't care as I'm not able to run around after them at the minute. Maybe I'm being too hard on them?? It's just it they need anything I don't best to be there and have no problem helping them round the house if there struggling.

Crafting is a good idea, I might look for my sewing box, only problem is the only way I'm comfortable is lying on my other side!!

marisco_2

I am really sorry to hear that you are in so much pain. When did you last see your doctor? It is good that he/she and the hospital have ruled out anything nasty. However being in this kind of continued pain isn't right. Have you cracked a rib? The only time that I have had a pain as you describe is when I had pluracy which is agonising. It took weeks to be sorted out too.

Phone your friends or text them and say that you need some help. Explain what is going on and ask them if they can pop round and see you. If they are the friends you think they are they will do all they can, just as you normally would for them. If they dont respond or show any interest then you need to find new friends.

Make the most of having some quiet time and dont feel you need to do anything other than looking after yourself. I am forcing myself to have a completely lazy day today too. It has been a very hectic start to the year and I know if I dont take the opportunity to recharge then I will burn myself out soon.

butterflylady

I'm due back to the drs next week, it's the first time I cld get an appointment ����

I think phoning or txting is a possibility I'm just not sure how much clearer I need to be.

I'm hoping ur lazy day is going well, I'm pleased u are able to recognise the need to be kind to urself. I'm trying to watch the trashy tv I have sky plused but I keep seeing all the jobs that need doing piling up :-(

guruchelles

I really feel for you.

When I was a single Mum and my children went to their Dad's I felt lost. I found it hard to settle in the house, so it must be especially hard for you as you're not able to go out.

Perhaps try using the opportunity to do things that aren't easy to do with the children around, like have a lovely bubble bath. Afterwards you could cuddle up on the sofa and watch films (Sky's On demand service is good for this if you have it). Draw the curtains and really bed in. Order yourself a takeaway if it makes it easier (I know that's not very MSE).

On the friend front, it might well be that they just don't know that you need company. Text them and be honest about it.

Oh, and don't worry about jobs piling up. Nobody ever got to the pearly gates and said 'you know what, I wish I had done more washing up'.