Split from boyfriend

Katiet_2

Hi, I'm looking for some advice. I've just moved in with my boyfriend to find out he has been cheating on me for some time. Because of this he has moved out and I am staying in the house until we sort out who is having it or whether we have to sell.

I am wondering if any one has been in this position before and has any advice, he knows alot about the law and I know very little so am a bit frightened.

Any advice?

lollyb84

Did you buy the house together, or did you move into your boyfriend's house? (sorry, but your post doesn't make this entirely clear).

Bendybops19

I'm so sorry for you

What a ba$tard, you obviously sold your house/ended the tenancy on your rent to be with him.

xxx

puffinmuffin

Hi Katie,
I am in a very similar situation (although our split is fairly amicable) I am moving out and he is going to buy my share. I couldn't afford the mortage alone but he can so has chosen to stay. He put a lot more deposit into the house so we will split the equity based on that. Whether you sell depends if one of you can pay the mortgage alone and the other agrees to sign the house over. You don't say if the contributions were 50:50

kickstart_3

Dont be threatened by 'what' he says he knows about the law, mine tried the same thing and came up with some absolute b*****t, (quite funny now )..get to a solicitor and get some advice , then you can decide what to do from there.

MJMum

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vikki05_08

The same thing happened to me, however me being the nice person that i am didnt kick him out and thought we could give it another go, (how stupid) im now getting to the point where i cant stand being near him. when we row i tell him to get his things and move out.
both our names are on the mortgage and we have a baby, what would i be entiteled to if he does go?

Katiet_2

We bought the house together... first time buyers. I have put slightly more money in them him. So far I have stayed put and he has moved out.
I think he has tricked me really, he is saying he could afford to keep the house and that I couldn't. But if I let him have it, then he has made money out of me and owns a house that he never would have been able to get on his own because he had adverse credit.
I just don't want him to "win" and end up gaining out of my misery.

pinkshoes

I think that your b/f never should've made such a huge financial commitment with you knowing that he was cheating, therefore you should sell the house, split the equity 50/50, and he should reimburse you for ALL fees payed when buying AND selling the house, thus making you no worse off from when you bought the house.

If he refuses, I guess you could contemplate legal action against him, because in a way it's theft, unless he was stupid enough to think that you wouldn't mind him cheating on you!?!?!

hobo28

pinkshoes wrote: »

If he refuses, I guess you could contemplate legal action against him, because in a way it's theft, unless he was stupid enough to think that you wouldn't mind him cheating on you!?!?!

I'm struggling to see where theft has occurred.

Whats happened is katiet has been niave, her BF a cheating scumbag. Neither are grounds unfortunately for legal action.

Buy his share out or sell the house & split any equity 50-50. Move on and put it down to life experience. Try to look past the "just don't want him to "win" and end up gaining out of my misery." as its not worth the aggro and you may end up spending more money with solicitors slugging it out than if you'd compromised earlier.

pinkshoes

I wrote "in a way, it's theft", meaning that he never should've entered into a financial commitment with her, knowing he was being unfaithful, coz in my eyes that's deception. If they were married, she'd be divorcing him for adultery and claiming back every penny she'd put in! She wasn't naive, she just found out her b/f is nothing but a lying cheating scum bag who only wanted her money, because why else would you buy a house with someone, knowing that you're screwing someone else?!?!

Katiest, if you put in more money than your b/f, then work out what this was as a % of the original house cost, and then say he can buy you out for X% of the current cost, as well as paying all the fees incurred when you bought the house (stamp duty, solicitors fees, valuation fee).

Is he even sorry for what he's done? Who's living in the house at the moment? I'd kick him out and change the locks for starters!!