Help- Had Carers Allowance, I.S and SMI taken off me!!!

SandraScarlett

Hi, as princessdon said, you don't have to be physically present in the same house if you are performing other tasks for your Nan in your home.

You mention that your Uncle has POA, and that your Nan "isn't short of a few bob", and lives in a 17th century home, which I presume she owns.

It may be that Nan would actually be far better off in a Care Home, exclusively for residents with Dementia, where she could be looked after 24/7, with trained and qualified staff that would be able to provide her every need.

Obviously, she would have to be self-funding, but the peace of mind of knowing she is being well cared for, is well worth it.

xx

princessdon

I think this is an internal issue between you and your uncle - maybe he wants the care at different times.

I care for my grandma and take my children early, late and weekends as that is when she needs care. During school hours its only hospital apts that need care, but she can't get herself in or out of bed. As her condition worsens I've had to employ carers (especially overnight) and for some 7am and 9pm slots due to working full time and 4 children.

Is the hours you do the reason for his change of heart?

Can you arrange to get extra carers in for when you are not available?

rachel6188

some people disgust me being so judgemental. op pm me if you want for advice without judgement. Im so glad all the people judging are so perfect. i was a carer myself for my mum & have now ended up severely disabled having to be cared for..xxx

thorsoak

TeeKay10 wrote: »

Which part of the post said I DIDN'T WANT to do it? I am not ABLE to do it. If you read the post properly you'd have realised that.

It isn't possible to visit someone 30 miles away, leave at 1.45 every day (to ensure that I got to school for 3pm) do the dinner, and then travel 30 miles back again to make sure I complied with the rules without fail and then come back an additional 30 miles all whilst trying to look after a child. Was I supposed to take her with me every evening and put her to bed late every night?

I tried my bl00dy best to help a family member. Wouldn't you have done the same given the circumstances? She has NO-ONE else to help her.

You say that she has no-one else to help her ....so is she alone from the time you leave her at 1.45pm until the following morning???

I'm far more horrified/upset at this fact than the fact that you are trying to get something for nothing!

missapril75

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

I don't agree.
One of the qualifying criteria for carer's allowance is that you must be caring for the person at least 35 hrs a week. It isn't something to aim for if you are able, it is one of the criteria that you must meet to be eligible for the allowance.

Sure, that is a condition. I was merely making the point that the allowance was brought in as compensation for lost earnings and she lost earnings while some people have gained from it when they have not lost earnings.

And on top of that, her Uncle paid her £105 a week for her petrol (7 x £15) which she did not declare to the benefits agency.

Not all monies are treated as income for benefit purposes. Not sure of current rules but payments intended for costs not covered by benefits were traditionally disregarded and that would include these expenses. Whether this amount is more than real expenses is another matter.

Is there still a disregard on payments from relatives?

Under the rules 10 years ago when I was in DWP I'm pretty sure it would have been disregarded.

missapril75

SandraScarlett wrote: »

It may be that Nan would actually be far better off in a Care Home......she would have to be self-funding,

Which would probably mean selling the home and having the fees quickly eat into the capital...and may well explain why the uncle wants do what he can to keep her at home.

I'm sure I'm not the only one thinking that.

TeeKay10

thorsoak wrote: »

You say that she has no-one else to help her ....so is she alone from the time you leave her at 1.45pm until the following morning???

I'm far more horrified/upset at this fact than the fact that you are trying to get something for nothing!

Considering your lack of full facts with the level of my nan's dementia you aren't able to give a valid viewpoint. She has mild to moderate dementia. If you are familiar with the condition you will understand, otherwise educate yourself before commenting.

She is fully able to function in watching TV, listening to the radio, taking her self to bed and caring for toilet needs etc. It is her meals, medications, cleaning, personal care and shopping that she needs help with. Her mobility is fine.

She has neighbour's numbers should she need urgent help.

As for the helpful comments and questions, thanks again. I cannot quote and reply to them all right now as I have to sort my child's bed and bath out.

Rachel - I certainly may PM you, thanks

real1314

Income Support is an Income related benefit.

When you filled in the form it asked you about all forms of income.
When you signed the declaration you agreed to inform DWP of any change in circumstances.

Your £5 fuel money per trip might be disregarded, but the other £10 was paid for a particular purpose, therefore would not be disregarded.

You clearly didn't declare this money, which would have been £50 or so a week.
How much extra money on top of IS, Carer's and Mortgage payments did you think you could have had without telling anyone?
£100? £200 £300?

I presume you are also getting tax credits, without declaring the £50-£75 a week?
:cool:

thorsoak

TeeKay10 wrote: »

Considering your lack of full facts with the level of my nan's dementia you aren't able to give a valid viewpoint. She has mild to moderate dementia. If you are familiar with the condition you will understand, otherwise educate yourself before commenting.

She is fully able to function in watching TV, listening to the radio, taking her self to bed and caring for toilet needs etc. It is her meals, medications, cleaning, personal care and shopping that she needs help with. Her mobility is fine.

She has neighbour's numbers should she need urgent help.

As for the helpful comments and questions, thanks again. I cannot quote and reply to them all right now as I have to sort my child's bed and bath out.

Rachel - I certainly may PM you, thanks

Although I may know nothing about your Nan's dementia, sadly I do know about dementia ...and the thing is it will progress - and your nan could well be at danger of harming herself - as her mobility is fine, she could well decide to take herself for a walk ....and then forget where she lives - or where she is going - it can happen as quickly as that. She may forget how to use the phone - she may not even appreciate that she needs help. My uncle was "fine" - but he decided to go for a bracing walk - in his slippers - and at 3am in the morning. Luckily, he was discovered by a local milk tanker driver - at 5am on a rainy February morning when the temperature was about 3C. He was 4 miles from home, didn't quite know where he was going. Six weeks later he died from pneumonia.

Dunroamin

TeeKay10 wrote: »

She is fully able to function in watching TV, listening to the radio, taking her self to bed and caring for toilet needs etc. It is her meals, medications, cleaning, personal care and shopping that she needs help with. Her mobility is fine.

Giving the things you say that she is able to do, I wonder what you actually mean by "personal care"?