How soon to invite on hen night.

74jax

Bella73 wrote: »

Depends on what you are planning and if you want people to attend...I know that sounds silly but with the Bank Holidays in May people may well make plans... you can't expect everyone to drop everything for your Hen.

Also depends how much you are expecting people to pay...I've been on Hens where it's been about £30 but the last one I attended by the the time we finished was about £350 or so

Ooooo I wouldn't expect people to cancel plans to come on my hen. :eek:

Myself and the majority of my friends are very easy going, would be lovely if they could make it, but if not then I'm sure they'll have a lovely time doing whatever they have planned.

I think a good 4-5 weeks is more than enough time, now I've had time to think about it. Lots of replies have related to going awy/lots of money to save etc. Its hard for me to comment, as I really don't know the plans, but my MOH wouldn't plan anything OTT.

Cost wise it would depend what it was but I wouldn't expect anyone to pay a fortune for something I (my MOH) in vite them on. If I could cover the cost I would - another excuse for a party :rotfl:

Can't wait to find out what it is.......

74jax

Well its now sorted for 4th May (yey). I don't know what we are doing or who can make it yet.

There's anothe bride at work who is so upset over organising hers (people saying yes, then no, getting money) that I'd so recommend getting someone to organise it for you.

Work seem to think I need a works hen night, even just a meal etc. I've already said no, but they still keep mentioning it....

I think for my group of friends 3 months notice was probably a bit too long, we normally just decide around a month before, but as my MOH needed to book things I think that's why it was so soon.

Find out on Sat what we're doing.

daisiegg

I am getting married in April and was planning to have my hen do in March. By mid January people were starting to get twitchy and asking me to decide on a date as their weekends were already filling up. So really it seems the earlier the better!

74jax

daisiegg wrote: »

I am getting married in April and was planning to have my hen do in March. By mid January people were starting to get twitchy and asking me to decide on a date as their weekends were already filling up. So really it seems the earlier the better!

Its funny isn't how we as brides are 'oooo there's plenty of time' and its the guests who seem to need to know.

I think because mine is with people I see all the time its seemed so silly so plan months in advance but my moh says people are now not hounding her as much now there's a date.

Can't wait to find out what it is and who can make it.

Do you know what you are doing?

TimBear

I'm arranging a hen do for this August and we're just getting round all the people who the bride wants to invite now to check on their availability for the weekend the bride would like to go.

Like another poster has said, people need notice so that they can save up for these things!

I've been invited to five weddings this year, two of which I'm bridesmaid at (and therefore my attendance at the hens are non-negotiable!), so I need all the notice I can get for anyone's hen do plans or else I just won't be able to budget for them.

Edited to add that the two weddings I'm bridesmaid for are having weekend hen dos (one arranged by the bride, and the other kind of requested by the bride!) hence me being so tight on costs - these things can be really expensive! If a hen do was a night out or a meal or something that wasn't going to cost mega bucks then I wouldn't expect so much notice.

74jax

TimBear wrote: »

If a hen do was a night out or a meal or something that wasn't going to cost mega bucks then I wouldn't expect so much notice.

I hope this is mine. We're contributing a chunk to it as the last thing I want is people to be short on money just because they feel they have to attend.

We often have nights out so its not really different, other than this one has an occassion and 'things to book' rather than a meal.

Its exciting.

My MOH has been amazing, doing all the calling, booking etc I know nothing. Your bride will totally appreciate everything you're doing. Well done.