Just wondering, moving in together

Gentile

FBaby wrote: »

Is the extra money she makes worth you not seeing your kids every nights and mornings, worth not helping your partner raising your two children, worth your children growing up in a united family, eating your meals all together, going out as a family? Is it worth the happiness of your children who surely would much much prefer to have both their parents with them all the time then whatever extra gadget they can get from the extra money their mum gets from tax payers?

Words fail me that any caring parents would consider money over the benefits of a tight family environment....

Unfortunately once the single mum discovers that she gets a lot of money just to be on her own and with a few kids it does not make any sense for her to let anybody move in with her. That would mean all the free dough is gone and now she is dependent on her partner for her shopping and other things.

Sadly the benefit system is being misused to be financially independent. There are a small percentage who do go back to full time work and get out of the benefit trap but the maths do not add up for a lot of them.

FBaby

I can't help seeing the mother glad to have the extra money, whilst the dad is glad to be able to get away when the going gets tough, not having to deal with interrupted nights, early mornings and the rest...

I can see how both would see it as the best way to be parents....for their benefits, not thinking for a second what would be best for the children they've decided to bring to this world.

Gentile

FBaby wrote: »

I can't help seeing the mother glad to have the extra money, whilst the dad is glad to be able to get away when the going gets tough, not having to deal with interrupted nights, early mornings and the rest...

I can see how both would see it as the best way to be parents....for their benefits, not thinking for a second what would be best for the children they've decided to bring to this world.

True, but what if kids have been brought into this world for some other reasons other than desiring to have kids? :eek:

SandraScarlett

Gentile wrote: »

True, but what if kids have been brought into this world for some other reasons other than desiring to have kids? :eek:

Such as what?

xx

Gentile

SandraScarlett wrote: »

Such as what?

xx

I dare not say it. Apparently benefits go up if you have more kids.

colleensims

cyph01 wrote: »

Ok, I work, and earn over £20k annually, I live in my own place, until I want to move in with my girlfriend (just like my own space at the moment).

We have two children, my partner is on benefits, in her own house, full time mum, etc, doesn't work but is a carer for her grandma. So she gets housing benefit, income support, carers allownace, child benefits, etc, I can't remember.

Well, I soon want to be move in, in the next few months or so, but, I assume most of her benefits will stop, apart from carers allowance..

It's kinda scary... please don't diss about us not moving in together as soon as, etc, and that I do have debt to pay off too! =( still.

Just want to get an idea what changes, what stops, what could I get, etc..

many thanks
cyph

Ummmm, move in together! Are your children not wondering why you are not living together like a 'normal' family?


Plenty of people are in the same situation and survive