Advice re teachers behaviour

billyee

Hi everyone,


thanks for the advice. Moved for annonymity reasons.

balletshoes

whats "big school" - I'm guessing secondary school from the number of teachers you met?

I'd leave it if it was me - if her school is anything like my DD's secondary school, they don't tend to get the same subject teacher 2 years running (certainly in the first 4 years), it was one comment the teacher made to your DD, she wasn't offended it by it and it doesn't appear to have affected her classroom relationship with his teacher.

martinthebandit

How about thanking the teacher for taken an interest in your daughter and ask how you can help broaden your daughters horizons to help her be more adventurous in her art?

Nicki

I'd leave it too. Sounds like the teacher was gently testing the waters with your daughter to see whether she knew that you and she had a barney at parents night, and as your daughter didn't react to it has decided she doesn't know and life can continue as normal.

If your daughter isn't aware she has a problem with this teacher, I wouldn't cause one for her at the grand old age of 11 in her first term at her new school. (My own dad was a terror for doing this to me, and it caused me problems right the way up the school!) I'm not artistic or creative in the slightest BTW and I never "get" what my kids art teachers are trying to tell me, though fortunately DH is better on that score

thunderbird

Sounds like he was just trying to give some advice on how to help her/increase her knowledge and understanding of art.

Maybe not so good at communicating with parents, but doesn't mean they are not a good teacher.

being nosey - where do you live? just that you talk about a principal and use the term 'big school' - I am guessing you are not in the UK?

Mrs.W_2

Some teachers who are fantastic teachers in the class room find talking with parents tough.

The deputy head at my daughters' school is perceived by some parents as rather sullen, withdrawn and not that open to chatting with parents. Yet the pupils love her. She's just better with kids than parents. Could be a similar situation for you.

arbroath_lass

thunderbird wrote: »

being nosey - where do you live? just that you talk about a principal and use the term 'big school' - I am guessing you are not in the UK?

The OP has gone but "big school" and Principal are both used in Scotland.

Tiddlywinks

So... a teacher tries to give you a bit of feedback which you disagree with and now you want to complain? Why are you using words like 'inappropriate' when talking about the teacher's actions when all you had was one conversation?

Children can't always be good at all subjects... the teacher suggested you try broadening your DD's experiences with visits to galleries etc - so, isn't this a constructive suggestion?

Also, your DD didn't find anything strange about her teacher mentioning your conversation - so please don't change that by using your feelings to influence her opinions.

I think you should take a step back and think about what the teacher might have been suggesting... your DD is growing up yet you still refer to 'big school'. You freely admit that you are protective of your daughter but she is getting older and needs space to develop her own personality - it's time to take a step back and take your lead from your DD's relationship with her teacher and not your view of things.

balletshoes

arbroath_lass wrote: »

The OP has gone but "big school" and Principal are both used in Scotland.

I did wonder - because "going to big school" here in Notts usually means going to primary school (ie the kids move on from nursery school to "big school").

Wyre

Down here (Kent) we use big school for any 'big' transition - nursery to primary school and primary to secondary.

Nicki

How funny! I assumed OP was from Northern Ireland because they use that terminology there to talk about the move from primary to secondary. I guess its common parlance in lots of places, and that we all read the post slightly differently depending on what it means in our own dialect.