Advice for a quick uncomplicated divorce

trevjl

My stepson has been married for 2 & half years, but 5 months ago she asked him to leave and he is now back wth us. It since transpires she is now seeing someone else and it seems it may have been going on for longer than the 5 months.

Anyway, he has now clicked back into life and wants out but is reluctant to pay as he feels he is in the right. I have offerd to pay any fees to get him out of it ASAP so he can get his life back on track.
Fortunatley there are no kids and they were renting so no financials to sort out, just a few belongings he wants back (his fishing gear !!! and a few other bits and pieces).

I have looked at a few online packages etc but am not really sure the best way forward. I am happy to do whatever, but dont want to throw money at solicitors unecessarily (they have enough as it is !!)

themull1

I did both my divorces myself, i rang the family courts, and got the forms sent out, filled them in, and sent them back, cost about £360 ish altogether.

clearingout

regardless of there being no financials to sort out, it should still be sorted properly with a signed and sealed Consent Order - he may need legal advice for that. This will prevent the ex wife rearing her head at a later date should he come into money, win the lottery, inherit a fortune, run a successful business etc.

Teeniepops

I agree with Clearingout to get this done properly.

I realise your son and your family are hurting right now, but you need to try keep the emotion out of the process as it will only hurt more - I say this after seeing people I love go through divorces - the clinical side can get smothered in tears, snot...it doesn't help and last thing he needs now is more heartache.

Regardless of the cause of the breakdown of the marriage - you will want to ensure anything to do with pensions etc is formalised to ensure she cannot come back later. Solicitors etc don't look at the cause when looking at the finances. Separate things to those formalising it all. And even if you do the forms yourself, it needs to go to court so best to get the info correct first time to prevent unnecessary fees.

You need to decide who will petition of the two and try to get them to agree as much as possible between them to prevent any information on the forms causing anger, resentment etc.

Be warned, sometimes court want to see evidence of mediation attempts - even if both are happy with the content of the forms, it does not mean it will be approved in court. My sister and her ex agreed everything but they needed to do more before the judge approved it as not long married.

That said, it is case by case.

I would advice not to accuse her of an affair unless it is 100% known as it may cause her to be upset/angry and that wont help! Be sure she didn't just move on fast rather than overlap. It gets messy if infidelity is part if a divorce from emotion side. This is why I suggest trying to get them to decide together. Perhaps irreconcilable differences would be better than infidelity.

Good luck to you and your son

trevjl

Thanks for that. I will make sure that it is done properly and there is no comeback.

Be assured there is no doubt 200%, the toerag concerend even told my wife and she has now run off with her best friends hen weekend deposits, so I wont be worrrying too much about her feelings