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fairclaire wrote: »

Epic post alert. No need to read or reply:D just getting a matter off my chest.

Been quiet for the last couple of days because I had a dilemma. My dear dad who died just nearly 4 years ago owned a holiday home in France. He spent almost half of the year there after he retired and divorced my mother and he loved it dearly. When he died I inherited it. I went there about a month after he died but it was a bit soon for me to decide what to do with it so I pretty much mothballed the place. He was friendly with a local man who agreed to 'care take' the place for me. I paid him twice year ever since in return for him sorting out a few minor maintenance issues, having the gardens done and passing on mail etc.

I have pretty much buried my head in the sand about the place after that. I had hoped back then we may grow to love it as our holiday home in years to come? maybe. But as my Oh wont leave the house, never mind board a plane that's unlikely:(. Anyway, I had a letter from dads caretaker friends daughter to tell me he had passed away:( so I now have no choice but to face up to it and sort it out.

I have a colleague who has a friend who deals in property on the continent and I have been in touch with him. My choices are basically....keep it and pay someone to maintain it. Rent it out as a holiday let ( Im not keen on that), or sell it. So I've spent all night looking for flights and am going there on Thursday next week. I will attend the funeral of my dads friend, have a good look at the place and decide what I want to do.

I feel very heavy hearted about it. I think once I deal with it my last ties with my dad will be gone:(....that makes me feel very sad. But if I think about it practically we have been living off a diminishing amount if savings fir 6 months and whatever I decide, this could be a source of income

Sorry for a long post. My OH just looks at me with a blank face when I try to discuss with him.....he has lost track of what's what financially:o

I'm sorry for your loss, out of sight out of mind I imagine about the house.
Everyone could do with the extra cash right now but I always believe selling property should be the last resort.Selling and putting cash in the bank to draw on when needed is nice to have but it will lose its value with inflation. Renting it as a holiday let without being involved or needing to attend etc ( so not to bring up memories ) would give you an income to help financially and depending where and how large could be a sizeable income. I can imagine selling would be hard as you say it's a last tie.
I would sit down and look at the figures for rental and sale and maybe get some advice.

FunkyFeet

sian22 wrote: »

good evening to you french knickers now I can return my attention to some work for the next few hours and I nominate you to ensure pattylabelle does not do a davemorton and I will join the night shift around half two

Sian22 http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.php?p=58392277&postcount=7096 wanted u to see this:)

think patty's gone to bed:)

see u on a nightshift here soon, unfortunately I can't stay today, but soon x x

p.s. less to worry about anyone else doing a davemorton(c)... its him u need to worry about, hes the only one attempting these whole pages...hence I called it a davemorton(c) lol

David.

fairclaire wrote: »

I know! I need to be sensible about it. I had a real fancy of getting out of the place what he did....if that makes sense? but our lives are different and our needs aren't the same.

Head Vs heart is a tough battle sometimes

I didnt mean that nasty in anyway but if you need /want to sell the place that does not take away any or your memories and your dad was happy to sell and move on from the houses before this one.
Maybe have a big family holiday there soak t all up cry a bit and take things that mean something to you after that its bricks and mortar type thing

jax.26

Bananababe wrote: »

On a different note I bought one of those foot pedi machines. I feel like I have new feet. :j
Can't remember who recommended it

Hi Bananababe
Could you tell me more about the foot pedi machines ...I was going to buy OH something for his feet at xmas but didn't have a clue what to buy!

xx

FunkyFeet

David. wrote: »

I didnt mean that nasty in anyway but if you need /want to sell the place that does not take away any or your memories and your dad was happy to sell and move on from the houses before this one.
Maybe have a big family holiday there soak t all up cry a bit and take things that mean something to you after that its bricks and mortar type thing

David. think fc knows how u meant it:) as do I, great advice there and I quite agree with David's sound advice fc...best of luck with whatever u decide:)

fairclaire

David. wrote: »

I didnt mean that nasty in anyway but if you need /want to sell the place that does not take away any or your memories and your dad was happy to sell and move on from the houses before this one.
Maybe have a big family holiday there soak t all up cry a bit and take things that mean something to you after that its bricks and mortar type thing

aw I know you weren't being nasty lovey:A the whole thing has stirred up Alot of emotions in me:o

Im going next week, but it will be by myself, for purely practical reasons. I think better on my own anyway. I know it pales in to significance with the problems that other have got. But it adds to the mixture on here:o

FunkyFeet

fairclaire wrote: »

aw I know you weren't being nasty lovey:A the whole thing has stirred up Alot of emotions in me:o

Im going next week, but it will be by myself, for purely practical reasons. I think better on my own anyway. I know it pales in to significance with the problems that other have got. But it adds to the mixture on here:o

again I have to tell ya off lovely...does not pale...give yourself a break lovely:)

like my parents say...each person's problem is the biggest to them as they are the one dealing with it, well that have too, right? hence, it is big in your eyes and in fact mine. U are so brave, hugs again:) x x

artha

David. wrote: »

Dont be daft I have a magnifying glass that my grandad used to use to read all I wanted and from my gran just loving memories.
Physical things come and go but memories they are there forever.
Just brought it all back to me now.
See its true.
You will always have your memories do whats best for you with the home its only a house :A

David.. So true. I have a few bits and pieces that I inherited from my mam and dad. Some of it has value and I probably would part with them for that reason if I was ever short. Some things, that most people would describe as tat, I would never part with. Things like the wooden handled hooks that mam and I think nana before that used to make hooky rugs and proggy mats. I sometimes hold them knowing that their hands must have spent hours holding them. Gives me a feeling of connection again.

Fairclair Hope you find a way to do what is best for you, both in terms of memories, peace of mind and financially. Where abouts in France is the property?

FunkyFeet

Well I am off for the night, but see you all soon, take care

night all:)

x x

sian22_2

thank you funky feet everyone on here has made me feel very welcome and although I might not help loads with glitches will post any I find I will contribute with loads of useless chit chat as do enjoy the night shift on here