Could this letter from my father affect his divorce settlement?

January20

It could well be that you father really doesn't want your mother to be turfed out of the marital home, but she can't afford to pay him the equity that he is entitled to. And let's not forget that if there are no young children living at home, and they both own the house, he is probably entitled to half so why shouldn't he get what is due to him? Why should he be responsible for your mother? She is a grown woman isn't she?

You haven't given a lot of details regarding your parent's financial position. It could be out of discretion or simply because you don't know enough. You probably don't know everything.

I would kept well out of it if I were you. You have nothing to gain from taking sides and a lot to lose. They are both your parents and nobody ever knows what truly happens in a marriage, or a divorce for that matter, apart from the 2 people involved!

princeofpounds

This is fairly clear to me. He probably doesn't want to see her out of the house. But he does want a fair share of equity. She is either unable or unwilling to give it to him. Therefore he has to obtain an order for sale (or at least threaten to) in order to get what he is legally, and quite probably morally, entitled to.

Just because you do something doesn't mean you actually want to be doing it.

I know nothing about the relationship and have no particular vested interest in divorce. But the two letters are not inconsistent unless he has been offered his share of the equity and refused for some reason. So to hate him for this is superficially at least unreasonable, unless there are further details.

If you want to do anything, you should tell both parents to amicably negotiate a settlement, and in private point out to your father that he should be prepared to leave her in the house if a fair offer of equity is made.

Errata

Bluntly, what your father writes in a letter to you has no bearing on his divorce; he can change his mind umpteen times backwards and forwards before he decides on his final position.

*Robin*

Errata wrote: »

Bluntly, what your father writes in a letter to you has no bearing on his divorce; he can change his mind umpteen times backwards and forwards before he decides on his final position.

^^^ My thought exactly.

Stay well out of it, unless Mum is unwell and requires assistance with paperwork.