My neighbour Elsie

McKneff

kingfisherblue wrote: »

These are really sad stories. My kids see their grandparents every week, often more frequently. They see their dad's parents every weekend, usually both days, even though my ex and I split up almost eight years ago. I didn't want my children not to have a good relationship with their grandparents - after all, it wasn't the kids fault or their nan and grandad's fault that we split up.

My mum only lives round the corner, and we all see her a few times a week. I ring every day if I can't get round to see her. My youngest is 13, and often pops round to help her with things she is finding difficult. He has put up and taken down her Christmas decorations for the last three years or so.

Neither grandparent can afford expensive presents, but they do enjoy seeing the kids. Likewise, my kids enjoy spending time with their grandparents.

I think that they are very lucky, as all of my grandparents had died before I was born.

It is so easy for young people to take their older relatives for granted. I know it isn't always easy to visit, but a phone call, or a few words written in a card every couple of weeks would show elderly family that they are still loved and thought about. One day we will all be older, God willing, and maybe then some of the youngsters mentioned on this thread will realise that they should have spent more time with their relatives, as they may be in the same position of being ignored.

Mckneff, your post made me as sad as the OP did. I have come to respect your posts during my time on MSE, and it must hurt terribly. I wish you, Elsie, and others in the same position a happy Christmas.

I realise at 22 and 20, they get caught up in their own lives, and that's fine, but it's just a feeling insied, I want to give, give, give, they dont even realise, just being a little thoughtless, it will come i suppose when they have family of their own.
I love my family so much. I feel over rides that,if you see what I mean.
I am compensated by my 2nd family, the same father of the two older grand children has given me two lovely girly girls who give their nana hugs, ages 5 and 3 so i level it out. The older boys will grow out of it lol.
What I was gobsmacked nicely was when one of the boys rang me to wish me a happy Christmas at the end of the call in a sing songy kind of voice was, 'love you nana, byeeee' priceless, now that was worth a million pounds ot me. All was forgiven.