What am I going to do about my wedding??

linzibean

Well, after months of hating my job but sticking with it because I need to save, I have tonight been fired with no written or verbal warnings (because I am in the first year of my contract) because I was "not up to scratch". I am devastated because I not only put my heart and soul into the job, but also because it is so hard to get employment round here, and I haven't got nearly enough money saved for my wedding. I'e just been crying since I was told tonight. I feel like the worst kind of idiot, I've never lost a job before. I'm the breadwinner, how will we cope? My dream wedding looks like it now won't happen.

Fen_2

I am so sorry that you are in this situation. There's not much you can do tonight except be upset - I know it's a hopeless thing of me to say, but you need time to clear your thoughts and think about what to do tomorrow.

Are you a member of a Union? They might be able to give you some advice. I would also go straight down to the Citizens Advice Bureau and see what they say.

The first priority is to get yourself sorted financially with the day to day bills. The wedding bills can - must - wait. Let close friends and family know the situation - they are your support network in this situation and might be able to help in all sorts of ways.

melancholly

sending a big hug your way :grouphug:

your wedding day will be amazing no matter how much money you spend on it - it's about you and OH making the committment, everything else is just dressing! step back a little bit and calm down (you must be so angry and upset)....

if you have money saved up (even if it was earmarked for your wedding), then in the short term you'll be ok. that's the most important thing right now.

Becles

I'm sorry to hear that *hugs*. Take some time to get over the job loss rather than worrying about your wedding now. Then you can look at the problem with a clear head rather than a tearful one. Easier said than done I know!

Are there any temping agencies nearby? You might be able to pick up admin or factory work, which may not be what you want to do but it will bring in some much needed income. You can still look around for another job, and have the ideal excuse for leaving - temp position and looking for permanent.

Are there any cut backs you can make on your wedding plans such as making the invites and/or yourself, shopping around on ebay etc., for bargains, and perhaps cutting back on any extras you may have booked?

Hope things work out for you, and you get the wedding that you want xx

youngie

get advice find your contract of employment and go to citizens advice if you weren't a union member,unless you were on a temporary contrqct they can't sack you without going through the proper procedure you could have a case fr unfair dismisal

MrsTinks

Hmmm contracts can be tricker to prove unfair dismissal on - I know because I occasionally hire people on contract because I am not sure about their suitability for a position and this means it's a lot easier for me to get rid of them if I am right... I simply don't renew their rolling contract and that's it.
However check your contrcat very closely for any mention fo getting rid of someone within the contracted period... there should also be a notice period even for a contractor even if only a confirmation that the contract will not be renewed...
Wedding... well don't worry about this for now... channel all your energy towards finding a new job

linzibean

I have checked my job offer letter and contract which I signed when I started, which states I had a three month probation period. I will be discussing it with the citizens advice bureau later today.

As for cost cutting on the weding front... we are already at rock bottom lol!! Making my own dress, cake, invites etc. We have paid for mostly everything right now, we just have left to pay for the remainder of money to the venue (about £600), the registrar (£195) and the remainder for our harpist (£130). So we don't have too much to pay, but the next two month's wage were going to pay for it!

Bills wise, next month's are all sorted because I get paid on the 18th of the month and put money into the joint account then for the following month's bills. So that will only become an issue at the end of May, and I hope I can find something by then!! There are a couple of small job agencies around here but it looks like I will be resorting to shop work for a while. Ahh, putting my degree to good use! The problem is shop work etc is difficult to get because they say I am too over qualified... boo

melancholly

get some money for every minute that you were at work after the 18th this month! let us know how you get on with CAB.

linzibean

Well the CAB said I can't claim unfair dismissal as I have worked there less than a year, however as they have not followed correct disciplinary action I can claim for wrongful dismissal. I am going to speak to ACAS on the phone later who will be able to give me more specialised advice on what to do next. I am nervous about causing trouble, but would like at least a written apology for the way they have treated me.

vickitoria100

unfortunately you may find it difficult to claim under anything with regards to the job, as far as i am aware, you can fire anyone without warnings if it's been less than a year. my stepfather's business has done it and it happened to my best friend and unfortunately both companies were well within their rights apparently.

if i was you i'd be focusing all my energy on finding a job. there are loads out there, apply for everything you can (including temp work) just to keep the money coming in until you find something you'd be happy to do perminantly. get on jobseekers until you do find something.

try not to worry about the wedding, by the sounds of it you've only got a small amount left to pay and as the wedding isn't until mid september i am absolutely sure you will be back in employment by then! contact all the people you have left to pay and let them know your situation. if you're honest, it's likely that they'll be more willing to help.

and finally, don't beat yourself up about this too much, you've done so well saving for your wedding whilst being the breadwinner so far. plus losing the job may have had more to do with the company not doing well or something. i know it seems awful now but once you find a job you're happier in anyway, you'll thank the day they did you a favour!

good luck and congratulations on your wedding!

new_mum_again

Oh no sorry to read that linzibean, :grouphug: i dont have any advice apart from what others have said and apply for everything I hope everything gets sorted soon and you get your dream wedding.