ex is back for more money: help please

sams247

Basically - several years ago my husband and I divorced, mainly becaiuse he had got us into crippling debt and he was abusive. I had a settlement and retained the family home as our children were very young. As my ex began to take out debts against the house I was forced to sell it, and began many years of renting. I continued to pay all I could and I receibved maintenance from my ex. I often bailed him out of problems and bought things for him (yes I know but it was very hard to deal with an abusive person back then - actually it still is). Eventually he got into a vast amount of debt and came lookign for money. As I could not give him any more, havinf run out myself he decided to cut my maintenance by a third overnight. I tried to take him to court but lost and he got away with this. Over the next few years I raised my children and essentailly got myself into debt because I simply couldn't cope. I have had a major illness that kept me more in hospital and less in work over several years and this aded to my debt. Now my ex is back again. He was caught out cheating the system at work and was sacked, and he has had to take a lower paid job. This means he has now cut my maintenace in half overnight again without warning and says if I try to go to a solicitor I'll lose again. I have a court order to say he has to pay maintenance for another 2 years but he ignores all court orders, and when I took him to court the last time he just proved himself right, as the court rules in his favour despite him breaking the last court order. So my questions are these: Does anyone have any advice where I can get a good family based solicitor? Does anyone have any similar story that can offer me advice how to be free of this man? Can anyone offer me advice how not to lose in court again? I am trying to be positive but am now on antidepressants with the worry and have had to take time off work again. I now have creditors chasing me as I cant pay them and I just want to be free. This mans income is now in the region of nearly £1500 a month and he has two pension schemes set up for early retirement. Neither of us owns property and each of us has large debts. He has not remarried. Any advice would be great, and I thank you all for it.

buxtonrabbitgreen

I may be wrong but perhaps you need to go through the CSA, they will decide then how much he can afford to give you. My first husband stopped paying maintainence years ago when I was on Income Support. Social securtiy followed it up but said he din't earn enough to pay so I just gave up on it. Just make sure you are getting all the tax credits you are entitled to.

arthur_dent_2

Hard though it maybe it sounds to me like you may be better off just accepting what he gives you and try and work on rebuilding you and your childrens lives without him, at all. Claim as much as you can in working/child tax credits/council tax benefits and then head over to the debt free wannabe board to see if they can help you with your debt situation.

Big hugs support and sympathy.