Young and so stupid..

Scrapaholic

It happens to most of us and it feels so real when you're 16 . One day you'll put it down to experience and meet someone who's right for you . Can you talk to someone about your feelings ? This person you're thinking about can ruin your life , make you feel bitter etc . but only if you allow this to happen . The choice is yours now . Choose to move on , be happy and make a success of your life . Good luck .

Jensha

That kind of relationship might really just end ruining your life. If he doesn't want you, then might as well not want him just the same. You already know that it's hopeless, you should just be thankful unlike others who would go back and back again and waste more time before realizing what you did.

bugslet

Oh it's horrible when the other person is the centre of your world and you feel/think that they never even consider you for a moment. And you don't ahve to be 16 to have those feelings.

The old cliche that time heals is really true and it's also true that at 16 you have your whole life ahead of you and you will meet someone that treats you well and then you'll look back and think what on earth did I see in the first one!

On a practical level, try saying STOP mentally ( or out loud if you can!) next time you start thinking about him. So if you find yourself thinking something like, ' I bet he's out enjoying himself with her and he isn't giving me a thought', try to say, ' I bet he's out with her and he isn't giving STOP' and shorten it so that it becomes, ' I bet STOP'. I know it sounds slightly mad, but it can work and stops that hamster whizzing round on the wheel of negative thought.

newcook

Im a bit confused – you say he treated you badly but then say he was always trying to get you to appreciate yourself??!

There are only a few people who escape their teenage years without getting their heart broken. for the rest of us, at the time it feels like your world has ended and you will never find happiness and love again - but you know what, you will!

Stop torturing yourself by looking at his facebook – he has moved on and from what you have said he is happy and in a new relationship. Its time for you to start moving forward too – get yourself out and about with your friends, concentrate on your studies and learn from the past as its what makes us stronger.


p.s – Im 32 and still remember my first love when I was 15. falling in love is nothing to be ashamed of no matter what your age

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marisco_2

At 16 I would strongly recommend you focus solely on yourself, your ambitions and dreams. You will never get this time again and it really is worth grabbing life by the horns and just enjoying it.

You had a relationship with someone who by your own admission was not a good match for you. Stop wasting so much of your time thinking about a person who in all honesty didn't make you happy. Dont give him so much importance. Chalk him down to experience, and accept that you have learnt something from him about what you do and dont like in relationships.

You are responsible for finding your own happiness and contentment. Dont let one negative experience with a guy cloud how you mix and get to know others.

Sambucus_Nigra

One of my favourite ex-es got married last weekend - I was always going to be gutted when it happened, but they have been together about 10 years and I am happy for them, really! But this can happen at any age and you just have to learn that it wasn't meant to be and move yourself along.

gibson123

Oh the absolute and utter pain of teenage love. It really is the worst kind, mainly because like everything once you get better at dealing with it as you get older. I remember getting my heart broken at your age, 30 years later I still remember how hurt I was, I can't for the life of me remember his name or his face now!:eek::eek:

Grassy_Knollington

Crystalla, just think of it as already having one ar5ehole in your knickers already.