Is purple or black ok for a wedding

Amanda65

I think everyone will understand your predicament and wedding etiquette seems to have changed so much that I don't think black is the no no it used to be. Maybe a quick word with the bride to explain your limited wardrobe would make you feel better.

leni

I'm going to a wedding in august and have bought a black knee length strapless black dress which has diamante detail on the front and also a black facsinator - p.s. I'm not pregnant but stuff it, if thats what I feel comfortable in then I'm wearing it - the colour theme of the wedding is ivory, purple/lilac and silver

clairg_2

Your pregnant so that should give you the excuse to wear black, i wore black to a wedding just after i gave birth to my son and still breast feeding it was the only thing i could find to do it discreatly, and we were witnessess and it was never commented on, i would though dress it up with a wrap or bright shoes and hand bags. If you do feel you should wear something brighter look on ebay they have maternity dresses really cheap.

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lellie

I think the purple dress will be fine - especially if you can find a silvery or lilac shawl or wrap to wear with it - that will break up the dress a bit and lighten it..

I think purple is preferable to black anyhow.. especially if teamed with lighter coloured accessories - you could get some nice light coloured fresh flowers to put in your hair rather in an alternative to a hat?

People will understand if you're pregnant - maternity wear can be very expensive - and you may only need to be dressed up once the whole time you're pregnant so it would be a waste to buy a posh frock!

sarahlouise210

I am going to a wedding in June where the bride actually wants everyone to wear black !!!! I am sure that the bride will just be happy to have you at her wedding...and will not give it a thought what colour you are wearing!

alice's_mum

I don't see why anyone would mind you wearing black. When I got married my mum wore a black jacket with a multicoloured skirt, she had a jade green vest top underneath. and she had a black hat. It never occurred to me that it was a problem and she looked really smart. She's a red head so lots of "summer wedding colours" would have looked awful on her. If you're really bothered mention it to the bride.

glenstan

as long as you feel comfortable I do not think anyone will care, it will be obvious that you will be "with child" so the colour you wear will not matter one jot, however people notice if a pregnant lady appears to be uncomfortable or overheated, so go for what you feel will get you through the day with ease.

mistresslenore

Wear what you feel comfortable in, I'm sure the bride will be glad that you've made the effort to come to her wedding, and I'm sure her brain will be running at 100 miles an hour and too busy worrying about her dress to notice yours. If you're that worried about it talk to her now and see if she has any objections, then, if she does you have loads of shopping time left

full-time-mum

My husband was best man on DD1s due date and I went to my brothers wedding a fortnight before DD2s due date.

On both occaisions, I wore (the same) dark blue pinafore style dress with a cream blouse underneath. I had a navy hat which I lightened by making a band/bow out of a light purple patterned scarf.

I think most people will be concerned about how you are coping rather than what you are wearing. I see no problem with either colour but think that the style is more important than the colour. There is no way I was going to buy an outfit especially for either wedding as I might not have made them and I'm sure that you are in the same position. Accessorise, accessorise and accessorise to get the right tone which ever dress you decide upon. You can also try beg/borrow from other pregnant friends.
Are you close enough to the happy couple to get a buttonhole? Any outfit looks fit for a wedding with one.

Some other tips, to help you cope

• if you are wearing heels then take a pair of flatter more comfy shoes in case you need to change into them later.
• Invest in some support tights even if it is going to be a hot summer day - you can spend hours on your feet at weddings.
• I found a cooling foot spray invaluable (I chose body shops peppermint foot spray - mainly as I had some as I was a consultant at the time).
• Enlist some help with your toddler (my daughter was 5 and 1/2 and a bridesmaid but it was hard work - take colouring and things to do at the table between courses/during speeches.
• Pack a carton or two of fruit juice for you in your bag so that you don't get dehydrated at the church/photos etc and some biscuits to nibble on.
• Be a bit selfish - it might be the brides day but that doesn't mean you should suffer.
• Re-consider a hat for a hot day so you don't get sun-stroke.

janthemum

I think the purple dress fine for the wedding; the only colour out I think for female gyests is white and cream.

Theyhave invited you I think far too emphasis on these occassions goes on the worries of dress for certain occasions its whose inside these clothes that matters.:j