friend that keeps telling lies

skintas_2

i work in night club promotions for some big name night clubs. i have been doin this for the last two years. when i started doin it i had a friend who would come with me everywhere. we slowly fell out, as when you work in what i do you have to learn to dont repeat what you hear or see, or go back saying things to people. i slowly fell out with her.

on sunday i am goin to a mutal friends christing, i spoke to my friend and she said so and so cant come sunday because she is working with you saturday nite and wont be finished till 7 am. i m getting really angry with this, this isnt the first time ive heard this. it really makes me mad, she has never worked with or for me, how can i stop her lying...... im mad as if she didnt want to gothe chrsitening just say dont use me as excuse...

what shall i do..............

peardrops_2

Say:

"Sorry but I don't have any knowledge of the fact that Mrs X is working with me on Saturday, in fact she hasn't legitamately worked with me ever. She was regularly known for accompanying me on my rounds but wasn't employed herself"

skintas_2

do you think i should comfront her and ask her to stop lying. as this is the 5th person since november to say it to me............

i was thinking of ringing her and asking her where are we working saturday and what time we start and finish as she seem to think she knows all my business

back2square1

You have slowly fallen out with this friend so don't feel any guilt in dropping her in it. You should not have to lie for someone who clearly does not have any respect for others. I would just explain to people at christening the truth, she doesn't work with you and cannot understand why she is saying that she does.

back2square1

I wouldn't ring her, why should you? Did she ring and ask if you wouldnt mind lying for her so she doesn't have to attend christening?? No she didn't.

Worry about friends who are important to you not the ones that take advantage of you!!!

skintas_2

thanx all for your help, i think it is jealousy, she had been offered work before in the past when she was with me, sher partner wouldnt allow her. just makes me think what else she saying, maekes me think iw as right to fall out with her,... i didhvae my suspicions she was saying things behind my back.....

fruitcake_2

It sounds really unfair that you have had to put up with this and you seem to have been more than patient, I mean FIVE separate occassions is taking the biscuit, but she does it because SHE CAN, do you want this to stop or do you want her friendship back? You could have put her "in it" at any point but you chose to be a patient loyal friend...unfortunately she hasn't and it doesn't look like she is going to either....it's up to you whether you want to start sticking up for yourself....sounds like you deserve better to me! Peardrops summed it up very nicely.....don't feel guilty YOU haven't done anything wrong.....why spend any more of your precious time being hurt by this person.....good luck whatever you decide....

ailuro2

She sounds a bit sad and jealous- don't get worked up about it- the next time someone says anything similar- just say-

"You know you're not the first person to tell me she works with me, but did you not hear we fell out a while back because she was indiscreet and couldn't be trusted to keep schtum about stuff?"

No need for anything greater than that!

skintas_2

thanx ailuro you hit the nail on the head,.......exactly why i fell out have told these people,.....last summer she was spreading things abut me, my partner comforted her partner , warned him to shut her up.anyway why she need to come work with me when she claims income support and he earns £40,000. my partner warned her to shut up before,if she fiddling and upsetting people to watch her back. .....