CSA & overtime?

s55shh

aussiesbird wrote: »

Thanks or your comments kelloggs36 - we have it zipped (so to speak) we never talk about her or her new family to the kids when we have them we just try to make it as enjoyable for them as possible - that's what winds her up the most! I do cooking with the girls and she hates that because she never spends time doing anything like that so they go home and tell her all about it - haha!!
It is very hard sometimes though NOT to say something as she obviously feeds them the info she wants us to know about as they always spill the beans - after all they are kids!! The thing that annoys me is she uses the kids to relay her nasty messages, like "mum says you're an a**se Dad". How low can you get to have to use your children as a form of weapon. I'm not exempt either, I was called the town bike!!! (as I had one other boyfriend after divorcing and before meeting my partner) she only knows me through me being with my partner!! She is just full of nastiness but at least we can hold our heads up high knowing we haven't done her or the kids any wrong. (I feel like doing her wrong sometimes though!)

My ex uses my son as a messenger (he's 4!). This has very effectively tought him all abouts keeping secrets (what he can tell Daddy and what he can't) and includes telling him not to tell Daddy the address that he's living at.
I would of thought that this is borderline psychological abuse.
She should know better really, she's a Degree Qualified Social Worker for the local authority who's spent several years working in the children and families team!

aussiesbird

s55shh wrote: »

My ex uses my son as a messenger (he's 4!). This has very effectively tought him all abouts keeping secrets (what he can tell Daddy and what he can't) and includes telling him not to tell Daddy the address that he's living at.
I would of thought that this is borderline psychological abuse.
She should know better really, she's a Degree Qualified Social Worker for the local authority who's spent several years working in the children and families team!

I sympathise with you s55shh - It's unbelievable what lengths some people will go to try and get to others. You are right it amounts to no less than mental abuse, they make out that their kids are the most important thing in their lives and they wouldn't hurt them etc etc but some are just evil and stoop so low in these sort of circumstances (not all, of course!) There are good and bad parents and unfortunately we have encountered the latter. Keep strong for your son, he will remember when he gets older all the things that happened and will make his own mind up about who was right and wrong. So long as you know in your own heart you are doing things the right way you have nothing to worry about. What goes around comes around. Good luck and best wishes to you and your son.

amanda29kb

aussie - when was they case assessed? this makes a huge difference. i.e; is is "old rules" or "new rules"
you need to check if your kids av been taken account for in your household and you really need to push for a reassessment using your partners YTD and a variation needs doing. Did your partner consolidate all the debts or is he paying them seperately?

kelloggs36

Some of the debts will be exempt by virtue of the fact that the original purchase was made by credit card.

aussiesbird

All debts were being paid to seperate creditors up until he had to declare himself bankrupt.

We have today received confirmation that the variation allowance has been denied and have just written an appeal letter. They are quoting that it has been refused under "variation regulation 12(3)". If there was a regulation for this why did it take them three and a half years to find out something that is written down in black and white for their reference?!!!

It seems the CSA's incompetence rears its ugly head again!

I am sending this letter directly to the appeals unit in Lytham St Annes as the last appeal letter I mistakenly sent to the CSA in Falkirk and they rang and wanted to go over points before they passed the letter of appeal on. We have no proof that they didn't change anything or put a covering letter stating that something had been agreed by phone which hadn't, so I am rather nervous about what the outcome may be.
Have still got to write to the Chief Exec, don't know where to start there!!

Dede_2

Can anyone give me some advice, am new to this but my ex lives with a new partner they have a child together while he has two with me. He and his partner split for a while and she put a claim in for support (l`ve had one in for over 7 years), but have found out they are back together so told the CSA that my award of £10 aweek (fab !!! eh) might be upped but no apparantly they can reside at the same address but not live together !. I gave them his old address , his car (BMW) number plate and his works address and was still told No he didnt have to pay was on invalidity ,l have brought up two girls on my own working 2 jobs to get £10 aweek(not that l`ve seen it yet) and he complains to the girls that l`m hounding him and he can`t afford it . Who else can l turn too, have done the fraud one and still nothing, have given loads of info and no all he has to do is say not working and thats it. Is there anyone out there who knows who l might get in touch with who MIGHT beable to at least help . Thanks

aussiesbird

Dede wrote: »

Can anyone give me some advice, am new to this but my ex lives with a new partner they have a child together while he has two with me. He and his partner split for a while and she put a claim in for support (l`ve had one in for over 7 years), but have found out they are back together so told the CSA that my award of £10 aweek (fab !!! eh) might be upped but no apparantly they can reside at the same address but not live together !. I gave them his old address , his car (BMW) number plate and his works address and was still told No he didnt have to pay was on invalidity ,l have brought up two girls on my own working 2 jobs to get £10 aweek(not that l`ve seen it yet) and he complains to the girls that l`m hounding him and he can`t afford it . Who else can l turn too, have done the fraud one and still nothing, have given loads of info and no all he has to do is say not working and thats it. Is there anyone out there who knows who l might get in touch with who MIGHT beable to at least help . Thanks

You could try contacting your local MP, thats what I did and he is now looking into the case - things at least have started to move along a bit.
The website addy is https://www.parliament.uk then you have to put in your postcode and it will provide you with their details and how to contact them. Good luck!

kelloggs36

If he is on the old rules, then he would be exempt if he is claiming certain benefits, that rule does not apply under the new rules. However, you would only get a fiver per week. In order to switch from old to new rules, you need to close the case altogether, wait 13 weeks and then make a new claim. Has he now been assessed at a nil? If so, then you have nothing to lose by doing this. If you have provided them with an employer address then I would suggest that you ask them politely, whether they have confirmed that he works there - he can't claim incapacity benefit and work unless the work is classed as one of the allowable classes, but he would still be paid for this work. Do you know for a fact that he works there, or is it old information? CSA should be making these checks that he is working and asking the employer for income details.

aussiesbird

UPDATE
Have just completed and sent off complaint letter to Chief Exec of CSA with copies to MP and complaints dept at Falkirk office. So that's appeal against variation, appeal against increase in maintenence, MP involvement, complaint direct to chief exec for maladministration and complaint sent to offending office (Falkirk).
Have I missed anything out?
Will update again if/when I hear anything.

aussiesbird

Yet another UPDATE
Had a phone call today from CRO stating that the appeal letter had been faxed through and she had received confirmation that they had received it along with a request for all the case papers to be forwarded to them. Also she said that things were being held up due to "change of circumstances details" I asked her to elaborate on this and she said that arrears were being worked out for my partner to pay back to June 2005.
I would like to know if they are allowed to base the arrears on the wage information they obtained recently as they haven't requested further wage slips (to our knowledge!) and also can they legally enforce these arrears as the error was on their part?