Obligated to buy gift or not?

MrsC....tobe

Personally if it were me and my OH, presents would be coming from us both instead of seperate just like others have suggested too. Seperate presents inplies that you are not a couple, or certainly not serious and having been together 6 years I think that you are on the serious side!
I never buy gifts for aunts, whether they are going to be with us on the day or not - some immediate family don't even get from us now as my brother is a nightmare for consistency (but that's another story).
If his brother and girlfriend are coming together, and they are serious after this length of time together, then some sort of joint present to them from both of you could be good, it doesn't have to be expensive but something that they can open together, eg a movie night in or similar (works even if they don't live together).

sethsgran

I agree with chocolates. If she is to become more permanent in his life then there will be plenty of Christmases to come. Also you are part of a couple so your gifts come from both of you, whether his parents aunt or otherwise.

SandC

Something that might help..... are you expecting a gift from her?

I suspect your answer is probably 'of course not!'. So do bear in mind you wouldn't want her to feel awkward by buying something more than a token gesture.

CharlieRabbit01

no not expecting a gift from her, I didn't get anything from her last year. as you quite rightly point out, not that i was expecting anything.

We do buy for his Auntie as she is very close family, like a grandparent. She has no children of her own so cherishes us all and like her own.


We sometimes buy joint gifts depends on what we see, my partner has made a photo book for his mum from her recent holiday and I happened to have seen a scarf which I bought for her.

I'm not a fan of joint gifts.

CharlieRabbit01

Chocs sound like a good idea.

I'm, not really looking forward to it, she was a nightmare last year. it was like having a spoilt child in the house.

I don't think she's going to be too nervous, last year she did nothing but complain about the way things were done and didnt get out of bed till 2pm christmas day!

I do have a feeling though that my dislike for her and her brother is whats holding me back. I should grow up a bit really.