Do I stay or do I go away for Xmas....?

Sensible_Jess

Well...
OH and I had booked (in June) to go away over Xmas. Nothing fancy, just a short four day break for two. After staying at home (and cooking for family) for the past three years, it seemed like a change was as good as a rest:)

However, (best laid plans and all that) MIL will be having a minor op in early December and OH doesn't want her to be without family on Xmas day (she won't be alone). I understand this - he's worried about his Mum.

BIL changes his mind all the time about what he will be doing for Xmas day - staying or going to GF's parents - and I dare say won't actually make up his mind until a few days before as their plans are usually up in the air.

So this leaves us a bit in Limbo. The holiday is paid for - no refunds. I'd still like to go - I really need the break. I'd go on my own quite happily but how can I best broach this with my OH? I don't want to sound like I don't want to spend the holiday with him but I really can't spend it in the company of his brother's GF for a third year running!:(

Any suggestions?

Sambucus_Nigra

How far away is the hol?

Sensible_Jess

It's in the UK but a long drive (4 hours) away.

OH and I had discussed coming back for Xmas day but decided that wasn't a sensible idea.

mickey54

Why not get OH to confirm with his brother that he will be with his mother that day - as he won't. Get GF to MIL - and you have a great break.

springdreams

As I hate wasting money, and the plans had been agreed and made a long time ago, I would go on the holiday if it was me.

As the op is early in December, your OH could spend quality time with her then and your MIL should be well on her way to recovery come Christmas, so should not mind if you go off on the holiday you had planned for some time.

whitewing

Can't take MIL and FIL with you?

Sensible_Jess

springdreams wrote: »

As the op is early in December, your OH could spend quality time with her then and your MIL should be well on her way to recovery come Christmas, so should not mind if you go off on the holiday you had planned for some time.

Thanks for your reply springdreams - This is what I'm hoping will happen - OH will see that MIL is coping fine and his fears will be eased. I understand - I know I'd feel the same way about going away if it was my Mum. However, I want to bring up the subject of 'what if' with him before then!!

whitewing I'd offer if I thought they'd come, but I'm sure they'd decline and I think MIL will be too poorly to travel much.

MIL has no idea that OH intends to cancel holiday to be with her! Bless her, she'd tell him to go, even if she needed someone to be around. It goes without saying that if she's more poorly than predicted, neither of us would go.

Sambucus_Nigra

I'd wait til after the op, chances are she will be fine and the hol can commence.