Help for living with an aspie partner

skintchick

I'm asking this on behalf of my friend, who has been having some marriage difficulties and has now discovered her husband has asperger's.

Are there any good books on living with an aspie person?

Two of her sons are on the spectrum so she knows about the conditions but needs some practical help and encouragement.

Her OH's diagnosis has actually made her feel more positive as it explains his behaviour, but she still feels she cannot live with it, although she wants to save the marriage if possible.

Any recommendations gratefully received.

meritaten

Decide now if she can live with this in ten, twenty or thirty years time - I can say from experience it does NOT get easier!

lovewealthhappiness

Yes, I agree, it's a case of wether you can live with it, someone times you can live with something knowing what the reason is so having the diagnosis could make all the difference, but if she couldn't live with it before it's quite possible she wont be able to live with it after diagnosis, regardless of the reason. You've got to think long term happiness for yourself, not for someone else no matter what the situation, even if that does seem pretty harsh.