Ex-wife/property advice needed

Fire_Fox

Report all threatening and abusive messages to the police, even if they are reluctant to take action be sure to get a crime reference number every time. You need legal advice for the rest, few if any here have any legal background. Also reread all the divorce paperwork, there should have been a clean break agreement signed, any good solicitor should have insisted on this. Don't understand how there can be joint credit cards without your partner's knowledge - wasn't he reading what he signed and wasn't this raised in the divorce? Has he checked his Experian and Equifax credit files to see what is on there?

It is very difficult to get someone to sell a property more so if there are children involved, worst case scenario she gets a charge against the property or an attachment of earnings so your partner pays in affordable instalments. Assuming she wins in court of course. If you did end up choosing to sell you can rent, it's not essential to be a homeowner.

themull1

I got divorced twice and i hadn't even heard of a clean break!

mgdavid

themull1 wrote: »

I got divorced twice and i hadn't even heard of a clean break!

.....then you were very badly advised - twice. And possibly failed to do sufficient research of your own.

paddedjohn

themull1 wrote: »

I got divorced twice and i hadn't even heard of a clean break!

I got told within 5 minutes of sitting down with my solicitor.;)

cheepskate_2

So she put in 100k , but only got 75k back, I assume that house did not sell for a loss so Seems a bit unfair.

paddedjohn

cheepskate wrote: »

So she put in 100k , but only got 75k back, I assume that house did not sell for a loss so Seems a bit unfair.

We dont know what happened to the other house yet, she may have got that aswell.

FBaby

paddedjohn wrote: »

We dont know what happened to the other house yet, she may have got that aswell.

The other house was rented...

The question is, was her relief to move on, maybe mixed with a bit of guilt made her to compromise stupidly for the £75K and now that she is not happy, realises how silly she'd been losing out significantly or, is she furious that her ex has now moved on whereas she is left behind and has decided to get back at him.

From the information provided, if indeed she has put £100K as deposit, only got £75K back, and has been paying joint debts, then it would appear the first instance applies, but there might be other factors not mentioned.

themull1

paddedjohn wrote: »

I got told within 5 minutes of sitting down with my solicitor.;)

I did the divorces myself. should i see a solicitor now?

Pipx

Hi, no house has been sold, they lived in a rented house, and the house that they owned we now live in. She has now agreed to accept £15k in installments, so I guess she had had legal advice that said she would struggle to get the 30k she was asking for. We will be getting a clean break order drawn up so that she cannot come back asking for more in the future. She did put 100k into the house but my partner practically re-built the house (it was in a very poor state when they bought it) so I assume she was advised that this work entitled him to some of the equity in the house.

When I split with my common-law partner a few years ago I was legally entitled to half the house we owned as we owned it jointly, even though he had put most of the money into it. i didn't take half as I felt this was morally wrong. I'm not sure why this is different with marriage?? Anyway, it is all sorted now, but it has taught me a valuable lesson - don't get married and keep all finances separate! Thanks for all the advice.

paddedjohn

FBaby wrote: »

The other house was rented...

The question is, was her relief to move on, maybe mixed with a bit of guilt made her to compromise stupidly for the £75K and now that she is not happy, realises how silly she'd been losing out significantly or, is she furious that her ex has now moved on whereas she is left behind and has decided to get back at him.

From the information provided, if indeed she has put £100K as deposit, only got £75K back, and has been paying joint debts, then it would appear the first instance applies, but there might be other factors not mentioned.

My bad, I read it that they rented out their second home.