'supporting each other through really tough times'

Softstuff

nuttyp wrote: »

SOFTSTUFF glad to see you posting again, hope your getting some nice sunshine.

Today had been the first day in about a week it hasn't rained :rotfl: And when it rains here, it really rains.

Can't complain though, borrowed a season of Columbo and the last Mission Impossible from the library, so at least we're well entertained!

Does anyone fancy a recipe for a freeform vegetable pie? It's quite economical, but it does need miso paste.

I made Paul Hollywoods wraps today and they're very good, very pliable.

grandma247

Softstuff wrote: »

Kidcat, I'd be inclined to call the company who manufactured the wardrobe and purchase a new pack of fixings explaining the problem to them. I'd then put up the darned thing and tell him to P.O.

I would just get the bits too. Otherwise I would have been tempted to either have a bonfire or package the stuff up and dump it in their garden.

But then I don't have your patience and would have had a bonfire with the shed parts too by now.

MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

KIDCAT lovie, it sounds to me as if your parents need to grow up a little bit, that is the action of a spoiled child, it has to be the way I want it to so I'll manipulate the situation to where it WILL be the way I want it! That's outrageous behaviour from an adult, let alone your parent. They don't deserve you, and you deserve much better than that, stay strong pet, Cheers Lyn xxx.

Yes spoilt brats comes to mind.

When a couple get their own home they are a new family unit and are no longer under their parents authority. They set their own rules and live how they want to. No one else has any right to impose their will on them.

Also your father has no right to speak to your son about these things because he is YOUR son not his and it is extremely rude as well as undermining.

Someone asked me years ago what she should do to be a good Mother in law, my answer? "Back off and give them the respect you would give to anyone else."

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Afternoon all, the lurcher is happy again cos his Dadi is home and has taken him for a proper walkies, I don't know where the warmer weather we were promised has gone, it's not cold here today but I wouldn't describe it as warm either so I have made Black Pudding Hot Pot for supper with a home grown cabbage from the polytunnel. Raided the freezer too and have some plums, blackberries and raspberries in a casserole in the oven as it is still hot from the hot pot and I will make a crumble topping for them when they've cooked through. Am I alone in seeing the lady on the news whose benifits have been cut to £500 a week saying sadly that she would have to think about cutting down her usage of gas and electricity and that cutting benefits would no longer allow her to send the children on Scout camps and school trips on that little money and thinking welcome to the real world, I know a lot of people who manage on far less than that amount and have done for some years but still manage to live a good life and work too, or is that an unkind thought? We have windowsills covered with small green sprouting seeds of many kinds and the greenhouse is full of them too I'm really hoping that this year brings kinder growing conditions than last year so that we get some good crops to use and store and process into delicious preserves, we'll have to wait and see, take care all, Cheers Lyn xxx.

grandma247

I haven't seen the news but my hubby has earned half that or less (take home)the last ten years or more so I do not feel sorry for her at all. She will have to learn to live like the rest of us. I am not against benefits but there should be some fairness about it.

nuttyp

Mrs L it amazes me too how some of the people on TV are complaining. After my OH has spent £40 a week on petrol to just get to work, and then the running costs we don't even get £500 in our hand a week, and if you include my wages we still don't. I would love to be home more, but when I had my children it was my responsibility to care and pay for them. Ive worked some really crappy jobs, and done some horrendous hours at work - still do 14 hour days sometimes. I wish my kids could have been able to do school trips away, a daytrip was all we managed while at school.

I like to think my children have been made to realise nothing in this life is ever free, and they are told its either collage or work.

I am glad that the elderly and disabled have been exempt from this ruling. There has to be a cut off somewhere, and finally it seams that disabled and elderly people are being treated in the correct way.


Well im off to watch superscrimpers on C4 it will make me smile..... and think if I can do these things.

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Good grief, I've just looked out of the front window and realised the front hedge has gone from bare twigs to little green leaves virtually overnight, amazing, although the apple trees are still not showing green buds yet, still, every little thing makes it look like spring!!!!!

savingqueen

I think £2000 a month on benefits is a lot (unless there are lots of things we don't know about like big family, high costs due to disability etc - even seems more than reasonable). Our total income is less than that including child benefit once DH's travel costs come off. DH commutes, works very hard and does lots of extra unpaid work as well as studying in his own time to earn that.

Also when you are certain benefits you get lots of things free like prescriptions or cheap like courses, council sports etc plus things like free school meals and if you are in council/HA housing repairs, boiler maintenance etc included. Repairs and maintenance are a big chunk of our money. Not having a go at anyone on benefits and/or in council/HA housing (both DH and I been on incapacity benefit at different times and we lived in a HA flat once so I know what its like) just saying that you get some extras with at least some benefits.

oh school run time byeeee

mardatha

I've lived all my life in council or HA houses and never had any complaints or really bad neighbours. Even if I could afford to buy a house, I wouldn't want that debt round my neck - this is one of the awful things Thatcher did, was to sell off council houses because what's left now in cities now are ghettos. At least before people had the choice - now they have none.
The benefit cap is about the only thing this govt has done that I agree with. It's madness handing out tons of money to big families, it just encourages parents to have more kids and they don't always look after them.
Ok I'm old fashioned and grumpy. I don't care lol

nuttyp

Madartha, well put. I too am the proud tenant for a council house, I have altered the kitchen and bathroom to my needs. I decorate to my own taste too. Doesn't bother me, I have a nice comfy home and a reasonably tidy garden. Skint but happy in my own way.

If anyone is looking for the yellow ball its appeared in Lincolnshire at the end of my garden, does anyone need it sending there way???

Off to do tea..............

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Thanks NUTTY I think you've just put your finger on what makes us tick as a group on this thread 'Skint but happy in each of our own different ways!!!!!' It's a wise head that makes the connection and sees reality, Brilliant, really joined up thinking, Cheers Lyn xxx.